Renewel of Vows

[Fluffy1234]

My DH has come up with a really lovely idea of going back to a Caribbean island we last went to 14 years ago when I was pregnant with DS2. I was looking at the website and noticed you can renew your wedding vows there. We would have been married for 16 years and had some rough patches but are now in a good place. Do you think this is a really sad/ cheesy thing to do. My husband is up for it as long as it is low key. I have lost loads and loads of weight and think having this to look forward to would help with maintaining it and just feel excited about it but not sure if it is a bit silly as already had a wedding.

My DH said the same as LaurieFairycake - everyone who does this seems to be jinxed. I think do it low key.

My DH said the same as LaurieFairycake - everyone who does this seems to be jinxed. I think do it low key.

So you really agree with me hattie

DH and I really want to renew our vows because we want to go and have the wedding we would have had if we'd had the courage first time around - running off to Vegas and getting drunk, just the two of us and some random witnesses.

Keep it low-key, but go for it, OP!

My DH wants to do this, quietly in the church where we were married for our 25th wedding anniversary (not far away) with those who are closest to us. He also wants a wedding ring which he chose not to have when we originally got married and has never wanted one purchased without some sort of ceremony. It's been a decision he has really regretted.

Soon after he wants to go the whole hog and have a party as big as our wedding reception to celebrate.

Thanks everyone. I always do things on gut feeling and am going to go for it. I hadn't even thought of it as involving guests or anything like that. Just as a big gesture of my DH and my commitment to each other. I do think 16 years of marriage and raising a family is something to celebrate.

My parents did this for their 25th wedding anniversary, just the two of hem and the priest. Still together at 35 years. They are probably the Lear 'cheesy' couple I an imagine.

I would love to do this with DH in years to come. Would quite like to have another massive wedding-style party too. I don't see why not. Why celebrate my birthday which means very little to me and happens every year regardless, and not celebrate the achievement that is a happy marriage of x years? Ach, if I dole out enough free booze folk will come anyway.

Nice one Fluffy i hope it's special for you both :)

A vow is forever, it doesn't wear out and need re-doing at intervals.Can't you reaffirm your commitment to each other without getting wed all over again?

I think it sounds lovely - you'll get some nice family photos of all of you in a beautiful setting too, and your DCs will be part of your continuing commitment to be a partnership. Sounds great.