my friend refuses to buy anything online just in case someone steals her entire identity but expects me to do it for her aibu to say no?

[DaenerysTargaryen]

She seems to think that its extremely dangerous to put anything about yourself online, especially bank card details. Fair enough.

The thing is she keeps asking me to get her stuff from eBay, Amazon and various other places and I'm starting to get annoyed. I buy from Amazon a lot so I'm not worried about purchasing online myself (as long as it's an established/safe community) but aibu to think she's being quite cheeky?

Its a faff

I buy stuff on behalf of my parents, I get them the best deal I can, but I do get the cashback/points on my credit card.

I wouldn't want to do it for anyone else though, but it's more the hassle of returning stuff if it's faulty that I couldn't be dealing with.

I'd tell her to piss off TBH.
She's quite happy to let you take the flak if something (which is very rare) goes wrong.
Stop enabling her.

So, she's worried about her identity being stolen, but not your'es

Just tell her to do her own shopping.

YANBU - just say no to her. If she doesn't want to buy on line, that's fine, there are few things she couldn't get off line if she was prepared to a) spend more money, b) drive to far away shops, or c) phone them, giving her card details over the phone which is far more dangerous IME

Once she sees that the cost and inconvenience of shopping off line vs the ease and savings, but risk of security she can make her choice. Don't take away the negatives of her choice for her.

My Mum does this - drives me crackers too.

SO its fine and dandy for your ID to be nicked and used I would tell them no to do its themselves ,

Bank transfer Natasha? Oooh bit risky apparently

I feel a bit petty saying no when she knows I use Amazon a lot but I'm glad none of you seem to think so.

I use a debit card not credit so don't get any points or anything.

I'd like to know more about these pre paid cards though, I'll have to suggest that to her.

Just tell her your credit card has been lost so you need to order a new one. Then tell her that it is incredibly safe to buy things over the internet if it is a secured site.

I saw a programme on the tv last week and it would take someone about 20 years to work out the hundreds of thousands of numbers in the correct order, which is used in every single transaction. It is very very safe.

DaenerysTargaryen - do you have a nectar card? If so you can go through their site and bump your nectar points - I get more from what I spend on Amazon than what I spend in Sainsburys!

She could do what my bank recently suggested, set up a cheque account that is solely for the purpose of using online so you don't use your main account.
Doesnt stop her fear of identity theft though I suppose
She does seem to have double standards, its not alright for her but she's happy to let you?
I would and have done shopping online for elderly relatives that just don't "get" the intenet.

Could she have credit history problems and not have her own debit or credit card?
Is she wanting to hide these purchases for some reason?

YANBU to think she's a bit cheeky

YANBU

Tell her she needs to get to grips with the modern world

Pre paid cards can be purchased from The Money Shop I have one for saving for Christmas. They are easy to use and even have a bank account and sort code with them so she can transfer money from her bank account with out having to top it up in a shop. (if she has internet banking of course, from your OP this may not be an option for her)

My Mum does that too, very very annoying

YANBU. I'd ask why she is prepared for me to take the "risk" but not herself.

YANBU, you know that already from other's previous posts, just had to say I LOVE your user name!

My in-laws get me to buy stuff from ebay and Amazon for them, and I don't really mind as they are quite elderly and I understand that they don't feel comfortable ordering things online. Having said that, I think YANBU.

my mum asks my sister to "buy stuff off the computer " and says "oh X bought that off the computer"

I agree with most people. Tell her to buy her own stuff. But parents and in-laws are different. I'd get them things 'off the computer'. But friends can take their own risks.

My mum does this all the time. Including me sending emails to her friends, and nagging me about whether they have replied or not! Ebay, Amazon, Googling, you name it, she asks me to do it. I'm suprised that she hasn't asked me to set her up on Mumsnet. It drives me mental

She used to use computers at work, so it's not like she is computer illiterate. She was also offered my uncles old laptop (old to him but perfectly adequate - he always has to have the next showoff new thing) but refused it. What was her excuse - "Oh I don't need it. Modre does all my online stuff for me."