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to stop my 18month old from dayrime napping?

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bejeezus · 23/04/2012 22:08

It seems really wee. But I can't get her to sleep before 930pm in the evening if she has slept in the day. I'm a bit delirious with tiredness and craving child free evenings. It's also disrupting dd1s bedtime, she is 7 and needs sleep for school

Is it mean?

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bejeezus · 23/04/2012 22:58

WHAT am I saying????????;

looking forward to hoovering early on a Saturday morning!!?!

Christ....

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scarlettsmummy2 · 23/04/2012 22:58

Haven't read all posts but my daughter stopped daytime naps before she was two and now normally sleeps seven to seven. She had a half hour sleep in the car on Saturday afternoon and was still running the floors at ten pm that night.

FrankWippery · 23/04/2012 23:08

bejeezus be very very careful what you wish for.

How often do you do a food shop? - Treble it. At least.
How often do you fill your car up? - As above.
How much does your mobile phone cost you? - The sky is the limit.
Do you like to watch television from time to time? Well Sky Plus everything now as this will be your last chance.

The really good thing about teenagers is laughing like fuck at them with their hangovers. Even better when my three year old daughter decides that she wishes to 'play' with her older sisters and brother. That, bejeezus, is the sweet revenge.

AnyFucker · 23/04/2012 23:11
Grin
FrankWippery · 23/04/2012 23:13

You know it AF Grin

WorraLiberty · 23/04/2012 23:21

How often do you do a food shop? - Treble it. At least

I tell the Tesco delivery man not to bother unloading

My kids just eat their way through his van.

FrankWippery · 23/04/2012 23:24

I was trying not to terrify her....

WorraLiberty · 23/04/2012 23:26

Whoops!

Anyway, the hubcaps are bad for their teeth...

startail · 23/04/2012 23:38

DD2 had to pick her sister up from preschool at exactly nap time and wouldn't sleep once she was home.
She very rarely had a nap from being about one and went to bed at 9pm. (BF to sleep after DD1 went to bed)
She still woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed earlier than I had any wish to.

She's 11 and I'm hoping teenage lie ins happen soon, she still does no later than 7am.

Mishy1234 · 24/04/2012 09:22

We're going through a similar thing here OP.

DS2 is 23 months and it taking ages to settle in the evenings (usually doesn't go to sleep until 8). The problem is that he still needs a nap during the day, but it's impossible to waken him before 2 hours. If he even closes his eyes after 2pm you can forget him sleeping again until 9pm!

I remember a similar thing with DS1 and it was a nightmare. I really need my evenings and DS1 now goes to bed at 7 (he's 4 and doesn't nap any more).

I don't know what to suggest, but I feel your pain!

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bejeezus · 24/04/2012 09:27

Grin at worra and AF

Shattered today- she slept at 10pm yesterday, but at least she stayed in her bed all night. Came in at 6am and went back to sleep for another hour

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DontmindifIdo · 24/04/2012 09:48

I don't believe the 'never wake a sleeping child' thing - it just means they get their sleep when suits them, which is fine if you only have one and don't work so can sleep too, but if you need them to sleep at night as to avoid unsettling other DCs/your sleep if you need to be functioning in the day.

I have a "2:30pm cut off" for sleep for DS regardless of how long he's slept. Could it be not the length of the sleep but the length of time from waking up until when you expect her to sleep again?

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bejeezus · 24/04/2012 10:07

it just means they get their sleep when suits them, which is fine if you only have one and don't work so can sleep too, but if you need them to sleep at night as to avoid unsettling other DCs/your sleep if you need to be functioning in the day

See, I do REALLY agree with this BUT then I start feeling REALLY REALLY guilty about being a working mum and not being at home to fit around babies natural rhythm

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bejeezus · 24/04/2012 10:09

dontmind -the cut off thing definitely has an impact. If I can get her to sleep before lunch, its much better. But still not good.

I spend my whole life trying to get the little sod babber to sleep

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toxtethogrady · 24/04/2012 10:11

sleep begets sleep, IME

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bejeezus · 24/04/2012 10:17

not in our house toxt Sad

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smallmole · 24/04/2012 10:23

I'd say you know best, to be honest. My first daughter stopped napping when she was about 18mths - entirely her own choice, I would have much rather that she'd slept. My second daughter is still having afternoon naps now and she's nearly 2 1/2. Every child is different and if you feel like her naps are disrupting her and everyone else's sleep pattern then maybe they have to stop. Why not have a go? It's not set in stone - if she can't go through the day without a nap or it doesn't make any difference, just bring them back.

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bejeezus · 24/04/2012 10:35

It's not set in stone - if she can't go through the day without a nap or it doesn't make any difference, just bring them back

Good point!!!

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AnyFucker · 24/04/2012 11:04

summary ?

there is no right or wrong way

it's what works for you, with your individual child

< gavel >

LoveHandles88 · 24/04/2012 12:55

We stopped dd napping past 3.30pm (regardless of when she falls asleep, she is always up by 3.30), and she goes down perfectly every night now, for 11/12 hours. I won't stop her naps altogether because she's perfectly horrid when overtired!!!!

Brandnewbrighttomorrow · 24/04/2012 20:51

Babies sleep in. 45 minute cycles - so if you're going to wake her do it at 45 mins or 1.5 hrs, she'll be less likely to drop straight back off to sleep.

My eldest dropped her daytime sleep before she was 2, my 5 year old still has one occasionally (several times on a teachers knee during assembly at school Smile)

With dc3 who's just 2 I find that an 11am nap suits best, we go straight out post school run and by late morning she's pooped and ready for a kip, gives me a break to catch up on some jobs. Usually it's in the car or pram. On the weekend she might have a nap in bed but she does tend to sleep for longer there, which does impact badly on bedtime. Afternoon sleeps are typically a disaster.

dogindisguise · 24/04/2012 21:05

I have a similar problem. My son is 17mo and wakes at around 7-7.30am. He isn't tired enough to have a nap until at least 1pm, sometimes later. Then he won't go to sleep until about 8.30. On the days when he has no nap he'll be asleep by 7, and usually seems OK in the day. I've tried limiting his naps to no more than an hour in the day. I think if she can cope without a nap in the day it may be worthwhile.

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bejeezus · 26/04/2012 19:02

I didn't put her to bed at all today, she's been up since 6am. Just fallen fast asleep with her bottle-RESULT!

Not sure its a better situation-im done in, having her awake all day! But I now have time for a brew and a little sit down

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dawny37 · 06/05/2012 03:51

Just read all the posts and its nice 2 know I'm not the only 1! My 19month old would sleep for at least 2hrs in the afternoon but then wouldn't go to sleep till at least 10. I've stopped her naps for about a month now and she goes to bed at 7! Mind you she doesn't sleep all night, but she never has. We all need some me time. So at least I get a few hrs here and there. Only you can decide the best thing to do. Theres no right or wrong. Good luck.

maddening · 06/05/2012 06:21

when are her naps?