so.... had minor falling out with friends. He is SAHD (lets call him Trevor) and has DS same age as mine (19 m). They usually get on ok with usually scuffles over toys. My DS had a hitting phase but I told him off calmly and removed him from the situation and he stopped quickly.
Recently their toddler (lets call him Brian) has been getting rather rough with mine (usual hitty toddlery stuff) and I am not too bothered as I know this is what they do.
What bothers me is that dad does nothing, or says in a normal voice 'don't do that Brian, say sorry' which he of course does not understand.
Brian started last week pushing other children over and again dad did nothing.
Last week at singing class Brian ran at my DS from accross the room and pushed him over, right off his feet, really forcefully. My DS bashed his head on the floor and hollered and I picked him up and said in a calm, quiet voice 'hey Brian that's naughty'. Dad did nothing. Few mins later my DS got over it, dancing around, and Brian does it again. I admit, I snapped 'seriously Trevor!' and grabbed my DS up whilst looking cross at Trevor. I said this in a pissed off but not loud voice.
Then Brian had massive tantrum and Trevor took him out. We were supposed to go for lunch but Trevor cancelled. I felt bad for snapping (in my defence DS getting up at 5.20 and me v tired). So texted 'sorry for snapping'.
Since then Trevor is obviously in a huge moody strop with me and ignoring me in a school-yard, teenage girl fashion.
So do I apologise again or leave him to mardy mood about until he gets over it? It has been a few days and we normally text/meet up tomorrow. Or do I phone and say 'hey Trev what's up'. I understand toddlers hit/push and honestly am not being pfb, but surely I don't have to watch my calm, placid DS get knocked over whilst trying to teach him to not hurt others?
MN jury - what thinks you?