What is a reverse AIBU?

[MrsHelsBels74]

I've seen the term pop up in a few threads but being a mum of small brain I can't figure out what it means!

It's where you ask am I being unreasonable (as opposed to someone else) where you are in fact that someone else not the 'I'.

A reverse AIBU is where a poster presents the argument from the opposite side of the fence, usually in order to prove that they are, in fact, being completely reasonable, and their SIL/MIL/DH/nanny/child's violin teacher is being an epic arse.

They're usually quite easy to spot because the OP can't quite bring themselves to make up sufficiently credible or sympathetic reasons for the 'OP' to be doing what they're doing, eg, 'I don't want to have children at my wedding because the whole day should be about me, and besides, I've never really liked my SIL's kids because they're very gifted and talented, whereas I don't have children and probably won't really understand them even when I do because I'm inherently materialistic and shallow - AIBU?'

Or AIBU to expect my ex to pay towards new shoes for our child? He already pays the mortgage and a huge sum in child support and he has another family he's trying to support. But I still think it's his responsibility. AIBU?

Then there was that double-reverse, where the woman wasn't keen on XP having the DC at Christmas, everyone universally said she WBU and a bit of a stinker; then she said it was a reverse really, she was the XP's much nicer new partner. The majority of posters suspected she was really the mean mummy after all.

God Annie I can't keep up with 'normal' threads

That would have confused the life out of me

This is a useful thread.

Reverse AIBUs sound like a good idea if you are the kind of person who thinnks MNers are meanies and always say that the OP is being unreasonable.

But they just don't work that well because when you think that someone else is being unreasonable you can't present their thinking the wya that they would.

I reckon the OP has probably come across a reverse or two over the past 18 months.

They are incredibly pointless. Why post pretending you are putting forward your point of view for opinions while you're really pretending to be someone else? You won't put forward their actual point of view or your own. Pure annoying.

Also despite the zombie warning I would prefer to be on dead threads ATM rather that most of the madness getting started in active convos today.

^this

I know this is a dead thread, it was linked as an answer to someone else asking "What is a reverse AIBU?" and I thought it was useful

Dead is surely just a state of mind . . .