To ask you to help me with this letter

[newbabynewmum]

Ive posted a few times about my neighbour banging & shouting on the wall when my daughter wakes up. Yet again she cried for less than a minute & the banging has started. I have had the worst weeks sleep of my life.

Can anyone who is up read this letter for me & help me?! I am moving house ASAP because this is almost driving me to a breakdown. I can't cope with the no sleep & feeling so intimidated in my own home...

Good Morning,

I'm just writing you a quick note about my daughters crying.

I wanted to reassure you that as a single mum who works full time I value my sleep do whenever she wakes up in the night I do everything I can to placate her as quickly as possible and sort the situation.

I am seeking help from my health visitor with relation to her sleeping.

I have tried to move her bed as far away from the wall as I can & have her in the bedroom as far away from where you sleep. Unfortunately there is nothing more that I can do.

If you have anything you think will help, or want me to do, the please let me know.

Whilst I understand it must be frustrating for you, the banging on the wall wakes her up further & puts me on edge. It is in fact causing our sleeping to be more disturbed.

We are moving out as soon as we can as I cannot cope with the constant banging & shouting through the wall, I find it highly intimidating to be treated like this is my own home when I am a considerate neighbour when it comes to every single other noise that I can control (no parties, loud friends, late night washing etc)

If you wish to come and talk to me about many of these issues please do. If not I would ask for you to stop banging on the wall, I appreciate and understand your frustration, the banging does not achieve anything for either of us.

Many Thanks.

I understand why you want them to know how much they've affected you, but is it worth it if you're going to move soon?

They sound fucking awful, especially when you should expect to feel safe and secure in your home, not intimidated.

Hug and some earplugs for you

My title should probably be "AIBU to send this letter"

Thanks.

I've had a max of 3hrs sleep each night this week (my DD is 19months). It's dire. I didn't go to work Friday (I'm a teacher) and am close to a breakdown!

I probably shouldn't send it I know. I'm just so tired & cross!

They sound bloody awful!

But i'm with zigzag if you are moving soon is it worth the hassle?

Good luck, hope you are ok!

Imagining the contents of the non-polite letter you'd really prefer to write while they're acting like twats would probably do you more good tbh

That's the one I'd like to read.

I would keep a diary and report them for harrassment tbh every time they do this call the council's number

Personally i would remove,

If you have anything you think will help, or want me to do, the please let me know.

Change OUR to HER.
It is in fact causing our sleeping to be more disturbed.

Remove
We are moving out as soon as we can as I cannot cope with the constant banging & shouting through the wall,

This will other wise give them a green light to do what they want, thinking you are not going to persue a complaint against them.

I would be complaining to environmental health, tbh and don't come over as apologetic, which the letter does as it stands.

Could not agree more with birds. Less pandering to them, more explaining.

Tear the letter up, honey - no good will come of it and you'll regret sending it.

Are you planning to move or are you saying that you feel you have no choice but to move because of this twunt neighbour?

If it's the latter, post on the legal board because it seems that what's happening to you is tantamount to harassment.

You are seriously best advised not to put anything in writing when you're under stress and not thinking clearly.

You're also best advised to never pander to the unreasonable because if you give them an inch, they'll take a mile - and more.

Morning. Well I slept from 4am- 730am. Ridiculous!

I won't send the letter. Equally I just can't be bothered to complain. I have a house to move into just waiting for a date.

I just need to be able to keep functioning for a little bit longer. Work is going to be a struggle but I'll get on with it somehow!

(I'm not so secretly hoping the next tenant in my house are the noisiest students known to man! )

I would probably leave a sarcastic note just as I was leaving for the last time, along the lines of 'I hope the next residents meet your exacting standards as apparently you expect silence at all times, including from infants who have no control over their volume level. Good luck with that. you intolerant ratbag'

I'm not recommending you do it though.

Wow what a silly shit of a neighbour you have.

Are they approachable, could you say something face to face?

My good mate had exactly the same issue, went next door, and spoke to a woman who had NO IDEA her son was banging on the wall like that. My friend was in a right state and was in floods of tears apologising and saying how tired she was. The neighbour was MORTIFIED, brought her in for a cup of tea and read her son the riot act.

Just saying, all might not be as it seems.

Do not send the letter.