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AIBU?

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To think DH has been extraordinarily rude to our friends

21 replies

lechatnoir · 21/04/2012 17:16

We (me, DH & DC) were due to go to a friend's DDs birthday party today. I've had to go into work so not around but told DH what to get for present & where/when party was.

DH mentioned last night he'd been asked by another group of friends to go (with DC) to a picnic and some fete lunchtime/afternoon - I commented that given the party timings they wouldn't be there long but otherwise didn't get involved.

Now, I've just spoken to DH to tell him I'm leaving work & find he's still at the fucking fete because they got a lift with someone & now can't get home until they're ready to leave (they'll have paid to get in so unlikely to have been a hour after they arrived which is when DH should have left!!!) Wtf he didn't drive is anyone's guess. Angry

I started to get pissy to which DH said - oh don't worry I've called your friend and explained why we can't get there & she was find about it. Errrr yes because she was probably mid entertaining a dozen 8 year olds whilst trying to occupy the 2 younger siblings who should be playing with my DC!!! This just smacks of 'I got a better offer thanks' and I am so cross with him and feel awful for my mate & her DC. Oh and final nail in coffin: me telling him he'd bloody better drop her present off to find he didn't actually get it which makes me wonder whether he had any intention of ever going?
So AIBU or being OTT about a kids party?

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rubyslippers · 21/04/2012 17:17

YANBU

that is very rude on all counts

MrsMcEnroe · 21/04/2012 17:18

YANBU - I'm saying this as someone who has had people cancel on my DC's parties with an hour to go with flimsy excuses such as "she wants to go the beach with her cousins instead."

Height of rudeness. Your DH needs a kick up the arse.

ENormaSnob · 21/04/2012 17:21

Yanbu

leftmysociallifeatthedoor · 21/04/2012 17:26

I'd be really pissed off if my dh did this. I'd get him to go get present now and then watch kids tonight/another night whilst you take a bottle of wine round your friends for a party debrief.

halcyondays · 21/04/2012 17:27

Yanbu, very rude to your friends and I'm sure your dc were disappointed to miss the party. If people have gone to the effort of organising a party and you've said you'll come then it's a bit off not to turn up unless there's a genuine reason, such as illness. If he wanted to go to both then why on earth didn't drive himself then they could still have made it to the party.

scarletforya · 21/04/2012 17:28

He didn't drive? Was there drink at this 'fete' .....could explain it?

RevoltingPeasant · 21/04/2012 17:28

What left said. How rude!

StripyMagicDragon · 21/04/2012 17:30

YANBU, if the invite was accepted and confirmed your child was to be there it's rude to cancel because your dh was doing something else. The fact he didn't even get the present would irritate the hell out of me as well.

FashionEaster · 21/04/2012 17:31

YANBU. If he does that mystified 'you making a big fuss over nothing' spiel, direct him over here and we'll --eviscerate- explain it to him for you Wink

pictish · 21/04/2012 17:34

Yanbu.

IAmBooyhoo · 21/04/2012 17:35

i think the fact he didn't get the present tells you that he was never going to the party in the first place. i would be annoyed. your child had been invited and accepted an invitation. your friend was expecting them. he was very rude IMO.

Bearcrumble · 21/04/2012 17:37

YANBU. He's been rude and deceitful.

Panzee · 21/04/2012 17:38

Ooh that's bad. He owes you big.

QuintessentialShadows · 21/04/2012 17:39

shockingly rude.

Has your dh usually no manners and no social skills?

eurochick · 21/04/2012 17:43

He never planned to go. It is very rude.

Original poster
lechatnoir · 21/04/2012 17:46

No QS that's why I'm so shocked!!

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ChaoticAngel · 21/04/2012 17:58

YANBU Your DH has been very rude. I'd not say much on the phone but I'd be pissed off to be told that someone who had accepted my invitation were now not coming because they'd had a better offer.

NoOnesGoingToEatYourEyes · 21/04/2012 18:21

YANBU, that was really rude and unfair.

FairhairedandFrustrated · 21/04/2012 18:27

He was rude, illbred and ignorant.

But if that were my children they would be bawling all day over the missed party.... Either you have very well behaved children or he bribed them with something :)

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lechatnoir · 21/04/2012 19:20

Well I'm home - glass of wine in hand whilst DH puts overtired & hyper kids to bed before coming down to make me dinner. Thankfully he had the grace to appear slightly more apologetic & once ive had my lie-in (yes i will milk it Grin) is on strict instructions to hot-foot it to the shops in the morning to drop off present along with bottle of wine with a grovelling apology to our friends.

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QuintessentialShadows · 21/04/2012 22:11

So, he had a blip. It happens to the best of us. Lets hope he manage to grovel suitably tomorrow.... Smile

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