To be thinking about making a complaint about this inappropriate man?

[Charliefarlie1192]

yesterday I got my keys to a new council property. I met with the housing officer at the property and he made me really uncomfortable. I have got a bad chest at the minute and when I was coughing he said 'oh that sounds nasty' so I replied 'yes I have had a bad chest for 2 weeks now' to which his response was' ooooh dont talk to me about your chest' (he was practically rubbing his knees in a reeves and mortimer style)
The next inappropriate comment was when filling out a form on my behalf (god knows why, clearly they think all tenants are thick) he asks me 'sex?' (as in M or F - why did he even have to ask I am very clearly F) he then followed this question up with 'and dont you be telling me 'regularly' or i will be getting upset'

apart from these 2 comments which stand out he was generally just making me feel uncomfortable with things he said and his manner towards me, do you think I should complain? I mean, it could have been a 17 year old girl getting those keys yesterday and not a headstrong woman like me who could ignore him

YANBU definitely write a letter of complaint to his superior

Definately. Local councils have very clear rules and regs about conduct, and I'm pretty sure this kind of thing isn't acceptable.

I don't think I've come across this kind of thing since Benny Hill was on telly, and it was innappropriate then.

I think it is a shame (although understandable) that you did not fix him with a stare and tell him that you felt his remarks were inappropriate.

Yes, I think you should complain. In fact, I think it's important that you do. No doubt you will get some who will go down the 'it was a joke, where's your sense of humour' route, but tbh, there's nothing funny about making a woman feel uncomfortable due to inappropriate sexual innuendo.

Yes, you need to complain. He sounds like an utter pig.

Another vote for making a complaint here....For the reasons you've already outlined- if it made you ("headstrong" and obviously mature) feel uncomfortable, how would it make younger or more vulnerable female tenants feel? Ugh.

Hectate - he did get a stony silence from me, and clipped responses but I didnt feel I could challenge his comments, not really sure why.

Sounds to me like he may have fancied you a bit and was trying to be flirty. I think your being a bit harsh complaining but I also wasn't there so don't know exactly how he said it so I'd do what feels right to you.

YANBU. Apart from anything else it is unprofessional behaviour that could cost the council in compensation if someone decided to take it that far. They would want to know.

yes complain

that is not flirting and if he thinks it is he needs to learn a lesson that it is inappropriate

gobbledegook I am 28 years old, he was at least 55 - he was wearing a wedding ring and if that was flirting (bleurgh) he shouldnt have been doing that anyway! I am a tenant, he is the housing officer!

I'd only been widowed a few weeks when I needed to get someone in to fix the roof and he behaved a lot like this. I was terrified and it was horrible. I made some shambling excuse over the phone as to why I didn't want him to do the work.

because he had the 'power', perhaps? He was the person giving you the keys to your home.

Even if it is flirting, he was at work talking to a customer and that's inappropriate. I don't flirt with my students and I don't expect plumbers, men in shops, or my solicitor to flirt with me, either.

YANBU.

what a scum bag, complain!!! and lets hope he chages his ways or career.

Complain. He may have done it before.

I was really cringeing reading your post!! He sounds a right twat!

Complain - like you say could be someone alot more naive on the receiving end. I expect it was a totally dumb ass was to try and be freindly than actually intending to flirt but who knows. It was wrong and made you feel uncomfortable which I am sure not in his job description - so complain.

He sounds as if he's watched a lot of Benny Hill. Complain, it's inappropriate and unprofessional.

Complain. He needs to know this kind of thing is not appropriate.

another one who agrees complain. It is completely unacceptable behaviour.

Definitely complain!

He was creepy towards you when alone with you, in was is to be your new home, and has the power to deny you your home. Massive abuse of power.

I had some work done in my council house a few weeks back and the guy was completely over familiar. I complained and was taken really seriously. Like you, I didn't challenge him at the time. It can be very difficult for a woman to challenge a professional male who is behaving inappropriately in the woman's home.

There should be no questions about your personal life, no comments on how you live your life and definitely no comments on your body or your sex life!

btw hidden sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you are coping okay x

Oh argh I misread your post as saying I HAVE only been widowed, not I HAD.

Sorry

It's okay RevoltingPeasant it was quite a time ago and I'm happily married again with two dcs