to not want to enterain his little sister as well?!

[takingiteasy]

Argh!

My son is 6 and has a class mate who lives up the road. They get on really well and enjoy playing together. This boy has a little sister who is 4. Boy came round for son today, DS was happy to see him and they trotted upstairs to play on the computer (both lego star wars mad!) and on way up stairs he called down 'my sister is just on her way'.

NOT AGAIN!

She came with him last saturday and spent the whole time coming up and down the stairs whinging to me that there were no girl toys to play with (no shit sherlock, theres no girls here!) and that the boys were ignoring her. She tipped out loads of things in DS's room.

So today as the boys were happy on the computer (which lives in my room) I told her she could go up but DS's room was out of bounds today and if she was bored she was to tell her brother who would take her home.

After about 30 mins they decided to go out to play. There is a grassy/landscaped area between our 2 houses which we (his mum and I) both happy for them to play at. Then son came into tell me he was going into friends house. All fine. Then the son and boy came back here, was making them some lunch and chatting in the kitchen. Hear our front door open and someone going upstairs. Was his bloody sister! She started crying when I shouted 'who's there' as I had no idea who it was! I then told her she mustn't just walk into someones house and should knock. She kept crying. Now I feel bad.

I'm 4 days overdue this baby, I really happy for DS to have friends round to play but neither DS or boy seem interested in interacting with his sister, she's just getting sent out to play with him and is so moany! After last week I spoke to mum at school. She said she wasn't going to let boy come in for DS as I must be shattered etc. I said no, it's fine I don't mind but I think the girl finds it boring. Hint hint.

Must make less subtle hints. I also suspect mum is working today leaving dad in charge and that's why she's being turfed out. How do you tell a 4 year old to piss off that they might be better off at home!?

Outrageous! YANBU! You are being used as free childcare. You may just have to be as cheeky back as they are being to you and just say when she comes over "The boys just want to play on their own today. You need to go home and play with your own toys". Or just say no to both of them as you have other things to do. Be strong - you do not want this happening when you also have a new baby!

Yanbu

No YANBU. I would tell her to go and play at home. There is a hell of a difference between your ds having a friend over and you looking after a four year old!

Take her back and say you thought she must have followed her brother out and you thought they would be worried.

Urgh poor you! Sounds like you've been very fair and accommodating. This may need to be nipped in the bud before your new baby comes, DS and his friend playing nicely upstairs with a newborn in the house but a four year old who expects you to entertain her is too much.

YANBU, send her home. Just say, go home if you're bored. So what if she cries. Her parents should amuse her, not you. I know I sound awful but 4 days over and you're still having people round, you're a hero :o

YANBU.

I like savoycabbages suggestion. take her home, say, I found her outside, she must have slipped out when your back was turned for a moment

YANBU. Take her back and say 'she is bored because there is nothing to play with, she wanted to come home'.

Totally unacceptable!

I had this problem.

I used to let her in and all she wanted to do was talk to me, nosy round my house and tell me how my children weren't doing what she wanted them to do! So I started to turn her away. Told her to go home. (nicely. Kindly. Smile on my face. Overuse of the word "poppet")

I had a word with her mum and said that it was not appropriate for a 6yr old to be coming to play with 11 & 12 yr olds and that I was trying to work on my children playing in age appropriate ways and with children their own age (they have autism.)

You have to just tell her to go back home. There's nothing wrong with telling the parents that you really can't have her round, the boys like to play on their own and you can't entertain her.

nicely, of course

Must practise being firmer and not a walkover! There's just so few kids round here I'm happy to be accomodating but not to needy 4 year olds!

The only other similar aged child is a boy over the road. I'm happy for them to play out front together or in mine but I will not let DS go to their house and it's hard explaining why to DS but basically this boys dad is a buckfast swilling waste of space with equally as charming friends in and out the house. Mum is very quiet but sweet. The also have a big rottie. Now I don't want to start a doggy debate but considering this boy told me they got rid of their last dog (a staffy type thing) because 'it started biting us' I'm not so confident of their dog controlling abilities.

It's going to be a long summer!

Not a walkover taking just very nice :)

Congrats on expected baby! x