To be irritated with dh.

[Kitchendiva80]

My dh and I have a gorgeous dd. he has taken her to give her breakfast while I stay in bed as don't feel well. All good so far. He then says that i'll need to get up once he's done this as he'll need to get ready to go out. How does he think I manage? He is generally very helpful but it's just little things that irritate me. He won't put her coat etc on himself, if he's taking her a walk he needs help getting her in the pram all stuff that I do by myself on a daily basis. She's almost 8 months old so he's been doing this (with assistance) for months. Aibu to expect him to be able to do this stuff by now without help? When I say to him he doesn't need help he acts like I'm being so ur - then acts like he's invented the wheel when he does manage. I'm probably extra grumpy ab

I'm probably extra grumpy about it cause feel so sick.

He won't put her coat etc on himself? Wtf?!? Tell him just to get on with it!!!

Seriously, it's really important that he does this himself so he realises it is possible and he won't break your DD.

This is like in hospital dramas when.the doctor days Nurse, scalpel! They expect you standing there doing all the 'support'work while they get the glory ofbeing brilliant daddy going to the park or whatever. Nip it inthe bud I think, he probably doesn't consciously realise he's doing it.youneef to have your hands fullatcoat time or whatever and tell him to do it himself. Its very annoying behaviour

Sorry stupid hillock phone hope you could decipher that.

My ex was the same. I did everything alone and on his days off I had to assist him in looking after are son. Even at age 2 he still couldn't look after him alone! Even now we ain't together I have to send pull ups and potty down as he doesn't buy either

I think that's what it is - he's worried he'll hurt her. Sometimes I'm dressing her etc and he's like you sure you're not hurting her? Well considering she's got a big smile on her face and shes trying to play with me I doubt it! He adores her and he's really good about the house. He does most of the housework. He does her bath too but as soon as that's done she's passed back to me. This is not too bad as I do her story and bottle before bed but it feels like there you go I've done my bit so can relax. I want to have time to relax. I feel like such a baby moaning esp as I know there are dads that are sooo much worse out there.

That's exactly what it's like sinicalsanta. And I don't think he realises cause he puts on this hurt face if I point it out. Think next time I'll do the dishes or something. He just came in to see me and I said I'm staying in bed for now. I'll get up When he's going to shops but til then he's on his own. Gulp! Hope dd survives unscathed lol.

Oh don't let him get away with this, OP. My DH did this pretend incompetence/I don't know where their stuff is all the time. Women don't come with an automatic baby-caring function. We have to learn, and so do men. Who here remembers the terror of the first bath of their first newborn?

You have to nip this behabiour in the bud, or he'll never do anything for your DCs.

I think it's natural to worry about accidentally hurting her, doing it wrong etc, but don't most new mothers feel like that at the start as well? The only way to get more confident about doing these things is to do them, so you're doing him a favour by letting him get on with it!

Good for you staying in bed :) I'm sure they'll both be absolutely fine, and someday he'll look back and realise how silly he was being...