My car is on its last legs. It has been for about 2 years- problem after problem. DH huffs and puffs when he has to fix it, so it is with sinking heart whenever I have to inform him of a new issue. Many of the problems get ignored until MOT time, when DH spends a weekend swearing and banging under it.
A couple of weekends ago, DH spent the whole weekend fitting new brake discs and a new exhaust. It never goes smoothly. I always feel anxious. And it meant me having no car for almost a week, and me having to borrow mydad's car, which I hate, as I realise it will put him out (although he always says it's ok) Anyway, flicking through the local paper afterwards I saw an advert for a really good deal on a new (smaller), far more economical car, with warranty, free insurance, low road tax, 0% IFC, at a price we could afford. DH agreed it was a sensible move, as my current car is a bit of a mummy-mobile, and as the children are older and I have no pram and just one dog now, i don't really need a big car. We were going to look at it last weekend, but dd1s plans with her friend kind of messed that up, and the showroom was shut on Sunday. The MOT was due this week.
DH said that anyway they wouldn't accept our car as a trade in with an MOT due, so we had to go ahead and do it. Car failed 
, and it's costing £145 to get it through. AND the garage broke something else (brake pipe?) while doing the MOT, and they can't possibly fix it until Monday, so car is in the garage until then.
DH came to my work (own business) to tell me this. I admit I had a bit of a rant 
. I was upset a) because I didn't want to spend yet more money on a car we don't even want , b) because having spent that money, I am loathe to now just trade it in, so it looks like I am living with it for a while longer and c) there was no consultation with me. DH will be at work on Monday, so he won't be available to pick up the car, and I will be working. But he assumes my dad will do it (he will, but wouldn't it have been polite to ask him first before making the arrangement?)
DH was disgusted with me ranting and walked out. I calmed down, and have apologised several times for my rant. He says I am just "throwing all my toys out of the pram" because I didn't get what I wanted (a new car) He keeps saying I can still get a new car, but it doesn't make so much sense to me now, having spent so much on the current heap of shit vehicle. I have apologised several times. Work has been really stressful this week, I haven't even had time to go to the loo all day for the last couple of days! We have savings (which I was trying to keep for a holiday, first in 3y), but I really didn't want to dip into them for this (although will have to) It seems I'm not allowed to question his handling of this at all. I have accepted it's better now to wait (again!) for my new car, but still feel we have gone about this all wrong and am frustrated- with both of us, should have looked into it sooner.
So I have apologised. I know I handled it badly, but still getting the cold shoulder treatment, and, quite frankly, I think I had some grounds for being narked. So (if you've managed to get through all that!) AIBU? (I know I was, but I have apologised!) to be a bit miffed at DH