leaving babies unattended in buggies outside buildings eg schools

[toomuchpink]

The school nursery my dd has just started will not allow any buggies in the foyet. Fine if you have one baby which you can carry into the building with you when doing pick-up, but I have twins. Carrying both through two sets of doors and into a busy nursery room is not practical. This leaves me with little choice but to leave them both outside. I am not too anxious about doing this for a minute or two, say at drop-off, but pick-up takes longer. I have to wait in a line of parents until I reach the front and then my dd is called, and we have to collect her bag and check her drawer for notes and pictures. AIBU to think my babies should not be left outside unattended during this time? Has anyone else come up against this problem or am I making a fuss about nothing?

Springforward - many, many more people die in fires each year than are stolen from their prams.

Yes, would assume that a hallway blocked with prams would prevent everyone getting out quickly.

Same issue at my dd's nursery. I lift ds in with me or if he's sleeping I stick my head in and ask a member of staff to keep an eye (this is accepted practice at the nursery, not something I've started! Seems reasonable to me though). Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with, ask other mums or staff, it's hardly being precious not wanting to leave your babies on their own.

Accepted purpleroses, but then in a fire you'd want to clear out to an assembly point. Who is going to take the prams, if they're unattended?

If the prams were already outside and not blocking the doorway, its easier for someone to grab them instead of the prams trapping alot more people inside a building or causing a pile up if someone trips on one them.

i just leave my dd outside whilst i go into the pre-school to collect ds4, i did the same when ds4 was little and i was collecting ds3.

its in school grounds, ermm i am not seeing the issue in our case most of the parents coming in and out say hello to dd and she gives them a wave and a big grin :)

Be grateful you did not have my mum... she once left my brother outside the Post Office, went home, and then looked for him in the garden and realised she had left his sitting outside the PO for three hours! I realise that this was in the 1950s... but can you tell me what you think might happen to your children?

I would insitst that a member of staff delivers her to you outside having checked the drawers first - as you cannot possibly leave the twins.

this used to be the norm back in the dark ages children were left outside shops schools etc , i know it isnt the norm these days and yyou are uncomfy with it , what i would do is wait till people have collected the children and ask somebody to wait with the buggy while you got yours , maybe you could do the same for somebody else ,

Twit, I agree the risks are small - an over-confident seagull, a run-away toddler who finds the babies and thinks they might like to eat a stone,a gust of wind blowing something into the buggy, abduction. The thing is the risk of me blocking the foyet in the event of a fire is almost non-existant. I must admit I had not thought of putting the raincover on. I could do this, though it is more faff I could live without. TBH I am surprised how uneasy I am about it. I am new to the area, so setting something up with another mum might take a little while.

Yes agree I am a cm and have 4 under 5 every day with a nursery run every day and hAve same dilemma.

I just push to the front if the queue of parents, I am quite scary.

The school simply need to rethink their system. It is totally unacceptable for them to give parents no choice but to leave their babies outside. They are a school for Christ's sake, surely they've heard of safeguarding.

That was one of my thoughts. I am planning to go back to work part-time in a few months. How would a cm or nanny feel about leaving the babies unattended or with a parent they don't know, when they are being paid to take care of them?

My dd1 goes to a nursery that you get to by going through the children's centre reception and it has the same rule - I have twins and I ignore it. If I go by car I leave them in the car if I can park directly outside but picking up often takes longer so I don't even like doing that. I'm waiting for someone to tell me off but I walk in confidently and noone ever has. Good luck to the person who does challenge me is all I can say - I will win that argument.

tbh, the amount I pay for nursery, I can turn up riding an elephant and they would have to deal with it. oooh I'm a bit grumpy tonight! :)

I wouldn't leave my baby/babies outside anywhere, I just wouldn't. I may be over the top and over precautious but I don't care. Do what makes you feel right and doing the best for your children, what other people do or think is ok is not necessarily right for you. Stick to your guns. Well done you x

Thanks. Love your nickname and Guinness too.

My dd's pre school is quite secure so I don't have a problem leaving ds out in a buggy. Sometimes the staff will come and keep an eye on him if he's upset. I wouldn't like it if it was next to a footpath though. Not practical to take twins in either. I would either ask the staff to keep an eye, it's only a few mins, or ask one of the parents. If someone else has a buggy you could help each other out. But don't be afraid to ask staff to help.

Oh just realised, you can get the buggy inside. Mines too small for that. Sod all I said then, just take the buggy in, They can hardly refuse.