to be pissed off with friend's comments about inheritance.

[lollingmum]

Talking to a DF earlier and she said that I had no need to worry about the future like she does. Her reasoning - I am an only child and my DP are fairly wealthy and so she thinks I'm "sorted" for life.
That's such a stupid and insensitive thing to say isn't it?

YANBU my friend who is an only child had similar comments from someone he worked with.

The final outcome was that both his parents ended up in different nursing homes - his mum had very bad dementia and kept beating up his dad hence different places. Everything had to be sold to pay for it and when the money run out he ended up paying the bills from his own pocket. Eventually after 8 years they died within a week of each other and he had to pay the funeral costs. Worst case scenario (I hope) but absolutely terrible for him :(

Dp thinks a bit like this about me. Which is a bit odd tbh as his parents have both passed away and he's already inherited, albeit nothing like as much as he thinks I'll be getting. He's in for a shock though as on my dad's side they all live to a ripe old age!

I'd much rather have my parents than money, and I'd quite happily give up our house (a big chunk was paid for by his inheritance) for him to have his mum and dad back and for the dds to know their GPS.

I'm not really motivated by money, and I think he takes this as me assuming I'll be getting plenty from mum and dad so why should I bother. I just don't think money makes you any happier, but having a loving family is something you just can't buy.

Very insensitive of your friend to say it though, no matter what she was thinking.

YANBU.... doesn't sound like much of a friend tbh. Clearly sees you as being on some kind of meal-ticket and resents you for it. I'd be careful...

My grandparents were pretty wealthy but most of that has now gone to pay for a decent care home. My Granddad lived well into his 90's and my Granny is still alive at nearly 90. She is getting to a situation where all that money is fast running out. Even a bog standard care home is bloody expensive - and it isn't like anyone is raking in any money from interest payments on savings anymore.

It was a stupid crass comment to make.

YANBU! Unpleasant thing to say and quite possibly wrong!

It is insenstive.

I am also an only child and frequently get that comment. I also point out that my parents long term welfare is my sole concern and not to be spread between numerous siblings. That soon shuts them up.

:( Olbasoil - some people can be so mean! I've had the same comment made about me caring for my DGrandad. Which is bad enough, but he's still very much with us and the person who made the comment has no idea what his will says. I do know what it says and I hope she remembers her nasty comments when he does pass (in many years time hopefully) and she realsises that she is named in the will, despite the fact that she ignores his very existance!

YANBU, but I've heard comments like that before. Money does terrible things to peoples' manners. . Ignore her!

My younger sister has said to me several times that I'll 'get' more inheritance than her. Our parents are divorced and she is estranged from our Dad (her choice). Both our parents have very little anyway but they are such mean spirited comments to make.