AIBU to be upset wit husband insensitive behaviour?

[sillyrubberduck]

My mum has passed away just three weeks ago. I am heart broken but try to keep a brave face for my DD and my sanity. She has left a small flat which will be shared equally between myself and my sister.
As it is early days, we have not decided what to do with the flat yet but my husband keeps hinting that we should sell it and split up the money (between sister and myself) and that my share should go towards reducing our mortgage.
Maybe my husband is right and it is the sensible option but I don?t want to discuss this just yet, I want to concentrate on grieving for my beautiful mum.
My husband keeps saying that he is not putting me under pressure but it feels like this and makes me really sad, I am at work and keep bursting into tears.
AIBU to be really upset by this money talk from my husband when is not even one month since my Mum (who I loved dearly) has passed away?
By the way, sister is also grieving and selling the flat was not mentioned in any of our conversations.
Thank you for taking time to read.

Sorry for your loss.

Have you asked him to stop mentioning it? Now is not the time for sensible, logical, practicalities. Some people find that helpful, a distraction. That's not going to work for you. Everyone is different.

I think you need to tell him to stop. Tell him that you cannot deal with it right now and you need time to grieve and you will let him know when you feel able to deal with it but he needs to stop raising it because it's hurting you.

If he can't respect that, there's something wrong with him.

You need to just tell him to stop, say that you and your sister will discuss and decide when you are ready. And that it is upsetting/hurting you. In my opinion yes he is being insensitive but maybe doesn't realise so you should just say-if he then keeps on he is a idiot. I am so sorry for your loss. Take care and give yourself as much time as you need, don't be rushed.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope your husband isn't trying to pressurise you but is just crassly suggesting a way forward.
I don't know if he has lost anyone close to him? Sometimes until that happens it can be difficult to have any idea how hard it can be.

Try to tell him again how you are feeling.

yanbu. you need to tell him to stop

YANBU. Tell him you'll discuss it when you feel ready. he has no right to force the issue and seems more concerned with your cut of the inheritance than your grief. I'd be livid.

Sorry for your loss (hugs)

No you are not wrong.

A lot of heartache can come from rushing into things after someone close has died. You need to take your time, grieve in your own way and then when you feel ready you can start to move on and deal with the practicalities.

Tell your DH that he may be right and that you will talk about it but it won't be now or even in the next couple of months.

Tell him firmly that you will be the next one to raise this - when you are ready to.

I really feel for you. I lost my lovely mum in December and you need to take some time to grieve before thinking of sorting her home. My aunt asked could she rent my mum's house and practically this made complete sense but it was so hard clearing the house and I did not feel ready for it.

Take time to grieve and share memories with your sister, you will both know when the time is right to deal with the flat.

Tell your DH you need this time, sometimes only when you have lost someone close do you understand this.

Thank you for your reply JustHecate.To be fair to him, I didn?t tell him to stop but I have just burst into tears last time he has mentioned it, at work, on the phone. I hope he has got the message, but, yes, you are right, I will tell him tonight.
I also don?t want to raise the issue to my sister until I feel that she is also ready.

YANBU, he is being very thoughtless. Sorry for your loss x

PerryCombover and mumto2.., you are so right, he has not lost anybody close to him.

(((Hugs)))