So the other day I switched the telly on and there was a Notorious BIG video on. My mum, who was visiting, goes quite, closes her eyes and starts to bop her head. Then she asks "who is this, N.W.A?" I tell her who it is. She then wants to elaborate on the whole East Coast West Coast thing. I try not to laugh and tell her that I don't really know much about any of it and, besides, I'm a nearly thirty mum and I wouldn't be able to discuss it with a straight face with my 20 year old brother, let alone my mum. My mum gets really huffy, tells me to get over myself and doesn't talk to me for several minutes.
I didn't want to be mean and we've always been close, but my mum is one of those types who, since me and my brother were kids, would listen to our music and read our music mags and want to be "in" with our interests. She would also know all our friends and call them by their nicknames (she did know their real names). I think that's a lovely way to be, I really do, but at times I felt a little bit encroached on. Say if I would be gossiping with a friend, my mum would barge in with her opinion and take over the conversation and get angry with me and start an argument if I didn't want to "share" what we were talking about.
As much as I love my mum, and we have plenty of shared interests, how do I get her to see (without hurting her) that there are some things that are "mine" and I don't really want to talk about them with her? She was widowed 10 years ago and doesn't really take much initiative for anything if me or my bro don't do it with her :(