Would this bother you? (FIL related)

[alizee]

My husband has just been on the phone to his dad to thank him for the visit last week when we got to meet him and his new GF.
When he finished i could see he was being a bit funny and i asked him what's up
He initially said nothing but then said "oh, yeah, dad was on about Gf's Daughter and how hot/stunning she is..and said i'd like her or something"
I could see he was a bit uncomfortable with it and before i could say anything he said "anyway he's just being an idiot, he didn't mean it that way, and wtf dad, i'm married!"
There was another thing last year when he was saying how good looking and beautiful his stepson's GF is and how quickly she went back to being like size 6 after having her baby.
I guess i just feel a bit self conscious as i'm not "stunning" but very heavily pregnant and fat and i sometimes feel like he wishes his son married a model and not me
I guess pregnancy hormones aren't helping either :)

He sounds a bit creepy to be honest.

He sounds like a bit of a perv...

That's pretty disrespectful to you op, fair enough to mention that someone is attractive, to make insinuations like "you'd like her" just isn't cool when he has a pregnant wife in the same room!

It would bother me greatly. Your FIL sounds like a shallow, insensitve twat. Glad your Dh was bothered by it though.

Wow. What a complete cock. Ignore completely. Someone that shallow only deserves pity.

He sounds like a bit of a knobber tbh BUT I do think you are probably (rightly) at your most sensitive a about it at the moment. I am 6mo pg and am definitely not feeling at my best which is making me sensitive towards all sorts of things that probably wouldn't bother me (see my Nivea thread )

It would bother me, too.

He's a perv, glad your OH responded the way he did even though it must be horrible for him too. He may to say something along the lines ^shut up dad, I'm married/you're a creep/old enough to be her grandfather/I'm more grown up than that^ if the FIL doesn't stop.

It's creepy, doesn't matter what size you are, old men leering over the daughters of their girlfriend's or their son's girlfriends are screwed up and revolting.

My uncle used to leer at me as a teenager, my mum made sure I was always out whenever he visited.

YANBU
He sounds like a creepy old saggy nutsack bastard.
Don't pay him any attention.

Thank you,
I'm not going to lie, it did make me feel a bit shit but i haven't made a fuss to dh and i don't want to show him it bothered me as it's not his fault his dad is a bit of a dick sometimes.
He's handled it really well (DH) I think he was quite surprised i didn't go apeshit at him as it takes much less to get me annoyed these days what with being 39 weeks pregnant.
I guess it's because i'm not annoyed, more like upset :/

I find some twattish men are always shitting on about 'stunning this' or 'hot that'. They are insecure and pervy IMO and see fit to reduce women down to being only valued on looks alone.

I work with two utter creeps with faces like melted cheese who go on exactly like this.