to have shouted at DS and sent him up to his room

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he and DD (they are 2.10 and 5.11 respectively) were playing, but sometimes they get into this silly mood where DS "winds her up" and makes her scream, then he laughs his head off, doing this silly laugh, which makes her scream all the more, which makes him laugh even more. in the meantime cbeebies is on in the background (in an attempt to get them to sit and chill a bit rather than run riot) yet neither of them are watching, but if i turn it off they will moan

i kept telling them to stop being hyper play a bit quieter and told DS to stop winding her up

but he wouldn't stop so i screamed shouted at him to go to his room

now i feel guilty as they weren't really doing anything wrong. but sometimes separating them is the only way to get some peace. when they are separate they are both pretty well behaved and chilled out and nice to be around.

its bedtime in an hour, i hate this after school / between bedtime bit sometimes.

If you've asked him to stop, and he doesn't, then I don't see how you can say "they weren't really doing anything wrong". I think YABU to feel guilty. He'll only learn if you really mean what you say!

YABU. You overreacted. Go and give him a cuddle and say sorry and bring him back down. Siblings fight. They're young and it takes a long time to learn how to get on with each other. You should have given him a warning, then sent him to sit away from DD if he continued.

YANBU at all for being annoyed, but there are better ways to handle it.

Is DS the 2.10 year old? If so, he's too young to be sent to his room - he won't understand that. Seems pretty harsh, esp as you also say they weren't really doing anything wrong - if you think that, the screaming at him is OTT, isn't it? Go and say sorry to him and give him a cuddle. It is a difficult time of day, maybe have some activities up your sleeve, just to keep them occupied before the madness descends.

Oooh I hate the time between school and bedtime too. You were right to separate them and I'd have put my DS1 (who is 6) in his room if he kept winding his brother up. The DC do need to know who's boss and learn to listen when you ask them to do do something.

Oh I'd assumed your DS was the older one. If not, 2/3 may be a little young for being sent to his room!

op are you me lol my son is 6 next month and dd 3 in june and all he does his wind his sister up.

next time tell him to go to his room in a firm voice rather than shouting easier said than done

We use a naughty step for DD2 aged 2.8 - she sounds like your DS and is very capable of pushing DD1s buttons til she screams! DD1 is 7.6!!!

They both get yelled at equally tho when they wind me up!!

DD does this when she's tired. It drives me mad. I usually have to tell DH off as he's the one winding her up!! :o

I scream inwardly and go to my room. Don't be too hard on yourself

Don't feel guilty, honestly. You don't sound unreasonable. We are human, sometimes that's what happens we just shout, even if we wish we hadn't. I think we are all a bit hard on ourselves,

sorry, should have been more clear in my OP

DS is the oldest, and he is the one who i sent to his room, i wouldn't send a 2.10 YO to her room, naughty step yes, room no.

and DD was the one screaming, but ds was making her do it by winding her up. and he KNOWS it annoys me and he knows he is not supposed to do it

Put the bath on - lots of bubbles and steam and let them calm down in there. I'm so glad those days are past for me!

No harm in sending kids up to their room, don't feel guilty. We're all human!

I agree with Barbie007. Adults are human, too, and kids should learn that if they go too far they will get someone's back up!