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to have a jaw-drop moment at a 6-month old drinking Diet Coke

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MadameChinLegs · 18/04/2012 17:03

This may be my first AIBU, im not sure, but not my first thread. I am wondering whether I am either:

  1. correct to hoik up my judgy pants or
  2. out of touch with what is now normally accepted

6month old DNeice given a sip of Diet Coke at my house by her father, firstly from his finger which he dipped into his glass and second a sip from the rim of the can onto which he had poured a little of the diet coke. I did a bit of a shocked face but I do think it was taken as a 'wow, impressive' face by her father who said "ah she loves it, watch she'll be begging for more" cue him taking the can away from her and watching as she did a bit of a mini strop.

DNs mum was out of the room at this point, but when she returned, DN was crying and SIL was saying "why is she crying, she never cries, what's wrong?".

I am taken aback at a 6 month old drinking Diet Coke as surely they only need milk and a bit of water and, to me, there's just no need to give it (apart from in SILs DHs case where I do think he was doing it to try and impress).

I feel half guilt that I have a judgy pants wedgy and half frustrated that I just didn't agree with it.

I wouldnt say anything to SIL or her DH unless they actually ask my opinion, but wondered is it wrong of me to be so shocked?

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kittyandthefontanelles · 19/04/2012 06:50

I'm with chinlegs (what's that name about?!) and Velma, et al. I think its unnecessary and a terrible starting point for the tiny baby. The baby is not a toy and shouldn't be used as one "ere look what she does when I give her this!" etc. You can bet it's not the first time, or last and makes me wonder what else is he giving her? My daughter is 5 months and the thought of her having coke is just nasty. Then again I think Coke is truly evil.

joanofarchitrave · 19/04/2012 07:04

I'm on the judgy side. A baby? Why?

Rillyrillygoodlooking · 19/04/2012 07:16

Yanbu. DH lets dd, who's nearly 3 have sips of his beer and massive slurps of coke. It drives me nuts I absolutely hate it. But of course I am overreacting according to him Hmm

boaty · 19/04/2012 07:56

I saw a child of about a year old in a pushchair swigging from a red bull can the other day! I was Shock at that!

ilikecandyandrunning · 19/04/2012 08:03

He is an idiot and I am very happily judgemental about him and his stupid antics. Tell your sister.

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MadameChinLegs · 19/04/2012 09:13

Ilikecandy - she is dhs sis so I have told him. he wont say anything to her but its more his place to than mine.

Kitty - my username is an anagram if my RL name.

I feel a bit 'UMMMM' about my dd possibly being given it by them but as shes has only ever been around them with me then hopefully ill be able to keep her off the diet coke for a while (her father is addicted to the stuff)

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kittyandthefontanelles · 19/04/2012 10:50

Madamechinlegs-I would tell them straight that you don't want your baby to eat/drink bad-for-her-pointless-cack such as blah blah blah and coke. I can see I'm going to have to do this with my inlaws I reckon. I love your name, it makes me think of a weird puppet with no torso where the long, stripey, dangly legs come directly off her chin. I've scared myself now.

MissFaversham · 19/04/2012 10:55

The man is a fool but I'm not shocked.

My worst one is seeing a toddler in a push chair with a bottle of juice dangling from her mouth.

I have to stop myself from prizing it out and lecturing the parent/carer about tooth decay!

Frontpaw · 19/04/2012 10:58

I can just imagine the poor child burping up their milk afterwards!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 19/04/2012 11:03

Well it's hardly drinking it is it!!

When I was little I remember my dad letting me have a puff of his cigar, I also had sips of his wine and he used to sit me on his lap and let me steer the car....not all at the same time I hasten to add :)

I turned out ok although I confess to liking the odd sip of wine and I also drive a car...mmm, maybe my dad has a lot to answer for Shock

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MadameChinLegs · 19/04/2012 15:03

Yes but betty just because it happened doesnt make it right or ok

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hairylemon · 19/04/2012 15:43

god I thought you meant a drink of coke when I saw the thread title and was ready to say YANBU but after reading what actually happened (admittedly "6 mo had the tiniest speck of Diet Coke AIBU" doesnt have quite the same drama to it) then Im inclined to say a big hairy YABU.

And yes at 6 months babies do only need milk really, but none of us NEED Diet Coke or a lot of other things for that matter. Im not sure what my point is there Confused

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 19/04/2012 15:44

in the words of Whitney...it's not right but it's ok!

puds11 · 19/04/2012 15:47

I must be uber judgey then, because i have Shock face on for pretty much anyone under the age of 7 or 8 being given fizzy drinks. I am major freeky about teeth though. I got very annoyed when my DP let my DD try a fizzy drink when she was about 2, as far as i know, it hasn't happend since.

thatisall · 19/04/2012 17:14

What an arse.

I gave dd 'tastes' of things, but that meant a taste of mashed potato or something that she would be eating soon anyway.

I am Über judgy about this stuff though :-S

I have seen a child with a bottle full of cola....now that is awful.

Its kinda making a rod for their own back anyway...introducing sweet tastes so early...it won't be long before she's refusing her dinner and demanding pudding only...then they'll kick themselves.

Ultimately, nothing you can do. If they ask your opinion, give it but it's not up to you what they do

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