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AIBU not to even consider this opportunity?

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Clytaemnestra · 18/04/2012 16:07

I got headhunted for a role today which is £10,000 more than I?m on now (pay rise plus a leap back from part to full time), I tick every box for what they want and it?s a good role with a good company, pension, healthcare, car included and a ?clear career progression?. All should be great and exciting, but I?m currently formulating plans to completely career change from what I?m currently doing to a very different job. I?m currently working on my days off and evenings for free as an assistant to get experience in this new career, and it?s going well, but it?s a hugely competitive industry ? this all might come to nothing although the work I?ve done so far has been very well received.

I?m 32 and I?m trying to career change as my DD is 2.5, I don?t want any more children and the idea of spending the next 35+ years doing what I do now makes me feels pretty bleak, this feels like the last change to do something I love. AIBU to not to even go for this job? We?re fine financially and live well within our means, but extra money would of course always be nice. I just can't tell if it's a bird in the hand versus two in the tree (not that I'm guaranteed to get the job at all - but to stretch a metaphor it's a bird in a closer tree with someone handing me a net).

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WaitingForMe · 18/04/2012 16:10

Not in the slightest bit unreasonable. Good luck in following your dreams.

MissFaversham · 18/04/2012 16:11

You stick with what you're doing OP. I'm in a (yawn yawn) boring bloody soul destroying job and it's pants.

You said yourself that things are ok financially anyway.

Good luck

Debsbear · 18/04/2012 16:11

If you don't need it and you don't want it then you're not being unreasonable at all.

LindyHemming · 18/04/2012 16:16

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YouChangeWithTheWeather · 18/04/2012 16:18

What's with that funny link in your OP?

ajandjjmum · 18/04/2012 16:18

£10,000 is not enough to stop you following your dream.

Good luck!

squoosh · 18/04/2012 16:21

YANBU

You seem to be taking positive and practical steps in moving towards your dream career, no point taking a job in a field you're trying to get out of.

Follow your dream. Every time.

dreamingbohemian · 18/04/2012 16:24

What's the new career field?

How realistic is it that you will get a job in this field? How disastrous would it be if you don't?

Normally I always say follow your dream, however some career fields are so impossible to succeed in that I think it makes a big difference what you are wanting to get into.

scrummummy · 18/04/2012 16:25

Go for it. it could be the chance for better things. good luck!!:-)

Clytaemnestra · 18/04/2012 16:52

YouChangeWithTheWeather - what funny link? I can't see anything.

dreamingbohemian - Costume design. I'm a decent seamstress and have been working (for free) in the costume department of a theatre (and absolutely loving it). This can continue in a piecemeal way indefinitely but people doing this where I am now have previously have gone on to other theatres in paid employment after building up their portfolio, and it's a great way of doing it as I'm getting the chance to do a bit of design as well as construction. I'm also doing evening classes in skills such as complex pattern cutting to up my skills.

I don't think it would be disasterous if I didn't get into it. I'm maintaining my skills at the moment in my current field 3 days a week and could fairly easily get another job in the industry, even if I took a bit of time out to throw myself into trying to get work as a costume designer.

I think I'm just having a little crisis of confidence as to why am I throwing away a perfectly good career for a "silly dream". At least I'm not chucking it all in to go on X Factor or something! :)

Thank you everyone for being supportive. Thanks

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dreamingbohemian · 18/04/2012 23:15

Ah, well if you're happy with your setup, working part-time and training in a new field, why rock the boat? Especially if you think this new job being offered is not a one-off opportunity, and you're not desperate for the money.

Good luck with everything -- sounds like a really cool life you've got going on right now! Smile

TrollopDollop · 18/04/2012 23:24

yanbu. Costume design sounds brilliant. Good luck [SMILE]

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