To be feeling pussed off with DH re my Birthday

[Originalplurker]

My DH has been generous recently

December antenatal pamper package
Gifts on birthday of 9 week old dd voucher
Gifts on mothers day voucher, book DVD

All from Asda

But today is my birthday, we agreed I would have some money to spend as need some postnatal fat clothes.

Then went downstairs got some flowers, another book, some Hugo boss women perfume - from asda I don't really need or want any of this stuff, nice though it is.

What I am upset about is my ds(6) didn't even know it was my birthday, not been involved in choosing a little gift, card or signing anything. It all feels like I've bunged more of the same to tick a box, completely impersonal.

No meal in or out organised, he invited me to lunch at last minute at 1150 to 1230, I would seriously have had to rush to get there with 9 week old and then get back for gp appointment.

When I told dc's it was my birthday he immediately said oh mammy let's have a party with some cake - which I would have to organise myself! And then asked if we should goto see 'the pirates' as a birthday treat and we could just stick a dummy in dd! but made me

As its been Easter I havnt seen a y of my friends, I don't work so no girls night out or otherwise organised.

I havnt put card up

I've got two boxes of large spa gifts, books and DVDs......virtual invites on way!

Happy birthday OP, I posted a similar post last week as it was my birthday and dp hadnt planned anything for me at all, im 8 months pregnant and would of liked a bit of thought, even just saying lets get a take away would show he had thought of it at all.

but then thats men for you, they dont think the same as us women, where as i spend weeks deliberating what to get him as a present, he sees a quick trip to asda on the way home (and yes i do share the same asda problem as you) as a place for all things wonderful, flowers, chocolates, cards all under 1 roof so he doesnt have to traips round looking for things.

id be pissed off to that he didnt involve your son in choosing a card for mummy, go to your doctors appointment, then go and spend the day with your children, even if its taking them to pictures or something at least you will be out and about, id also be inclined to organise a little brunch with friends at the weekend and inform dp he will be babysitting at that time! have a good day, i know its disheartening but doesnt mean he loves you any less, just thinks differently thats all!

Hugo Boss designed uniforms for the SS. What was the perfume, Eau de Zyklon B?

Happy birthday OP!

Could you all have a nice takeaway for supper to save you from having to cook this evening rather than rushing out for lunch and then back to GPs?

I get what you mean - I'm sure your dc would have loved to have made or bought you a card with their dad and been involved - even if just to choose you a bizarre little present or box of chocs or something. My dc (6 & 4) love being conspiratorial with one parent when the it's the other one's birthday and just being involved.

It doesn't matter that they think I want a toy car or a bakugan or a bottle of cleaning spray (can you guess I have boys!) or that they run off and pick me a big bunch of 'dandelions and pretty daisy flowers for my pretty mummy' or that they have managed to create acres of mess in the kitchen in trying to make me a card but hide it from me when they are doing it, or that they get me the now traditional chocolate orange that they immediately expect to help me eat, they have a lovely time with their dad sorting it all out and it is good for all of them!

Hope you still get your money to buy clothes! if it's a perfume you don't usually wear, is it still all in its packaging, will you be able to at least change if from asda if you don't want it, or get your money back?

Hope the rest of the day goes a bit better! (Not that it's any consolation but all of us had flu this year for my birthday so I've postponed it for a month while I get better!)

Kladdkaka I have a large and overgrown garden. I'm sure I could lose home your bunny somewhere.

Oh thanks for taking the time to right such an emphatic post vix, exactly once again.

I would like to add, the pamper thing he would normally of paid for let alone booked, I asked for that and he did as he was v v much in dog house he did so someting that caused me a lot of distress.

My mothers day treat was a drive out to Cotswold but that never happened because I was v I'll at time. It's not like he doesn't know I like to 'do' stuff..

Anyway there have been a few emails back and forth, he has told me how he loves me etc and how happy he is, ditto from its just arrggghhh

VENT ALERT after all the bloodt housework, bags in bags out, bags packed bags emptied for a plethora of ds activities and of course dd change bag, planning meals and on the go snacks with revision timing and 2hourly bottle feeds, so etimes one I just wanted SOMETHING DONE FOR ME.

I understand what you mean. My favourite present ever from DH was under £5 and never actually turned up! (Amazon marketplace screw up) Still my favourite because it was exactly what I wanted but I wouldn't have bought it for myself.

Dd awake, waiting for bottle to cool, so quick thanks to zipzap particularly suggestions.

I will get ready soon and enjoy bath and put in lipgloss my failsafe. Chocolate is helping. Actually can't wait to see ds as have found a link for something he really wanted to do so he will be very leased.

I'm getting lots of cuddles in with dd.

As for DH he will have to wait until I think what to do.

Yes I still have money for clothes he gave me go ahead to order some from next directory, no comments please they do fat workout gear!

narked

Update!

DH came home sharpish fromwork and helped with homework and bedtime, he did find a tearful and bit smelly original.

I got my bath, yay, and DH realised it was time and personal touch, he apologised about dc's involvement and has offered to take dc out at weekend to give me some rest and go for that drive to Cotswold.

he understood it wasn't about the gifts quantity or quality, i did however ask if he he could take back the perfume and use to buy v v nice picnic food for our drive.

Alls is wEll in the plurking household again.

All good then. Nice result.