PFB or completely reasonable?

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My dsis who is 21, and dbil who is 18 want to take ds (20 months) out to visit a local aquarium later in the week. Ordinarily this is not a problem, they are both trusted to look after ds for the day.

However, neither of them drive so I assumed they would be taking the bus. So when dsis said her best friend would be driving them there my initial reaction was no way!

Dsis's best friend has been driving for a few years (she is also 21), however in previous years we have heard stories about her doing silly things behind the wheel of the car (mainly letting go of the steering wheel in panic when a bird flew in front of the car and dancing to YMCA complete with actions while driving ).

Now if dsis wants to get in the car with her that's fine. If I were on my own I probably wouldn't be that bothered about accepting a lift myself although I have no experience of her driving ability. But I can't let ds go in her car, especially without me or dh there. If I considered her driving to be unsafe I could say something but ds can't.

Dsis thinks I'm BU and assures me that her friend is a good driver and that these incidents occurred a few years ago. I say they should get the bus or dh will drop ds off at the aquarium and pick him up again when they're done.

So what say ye mumsnet? Aibu and pfb?

I don't know if you are being U, but my answer would be the same :)
No way would I let some random person drive my babies anywhere! They might not get the car seat in right, etc etc..

YANBU.

YANBU, that would be a red flag to me and I think you should stick to your guns. Who cares if your SIs thinks you are BU, it is your baby your are talking about.

I wouldn't go for it either. You don't seem to know the BF very well, going on what you said about "hearing" stories about her driving and she can't have been driving for that long if she's only 21 now. I'd say no outright but if you feel less comfortable with that maybe you could say that you have plans to be out/going to X place so it will be easier for you to drop DS off and pick him up after the day out.

I would say the same as you.
I would not let ds get in a car with a stranger driving! I don't care who is with him.

YANBU.

No, YANBU, and it's not PFB syndrome either. The only thing you've heard about BF is that her driving is unreliable. They can take the bus or let DH drop off and pick up.

Thank you, I knew I wasn't BU

They will get the bus or dh drops ds off.

This is the first time ds has ever gone for a day out without me or dh so I'm worried as hell anyway without adding potentially dangerous drivers to the equation!

yanbu. It's not worth the risk, your baby can never be precious enough.

Yanbu, you are quite right. Remind Dsis of the stories she has told of her friend's driving. Interesting that buses are safer than cars even though they don't have belts or baby seats. At least I presume they are safer.