to go on hunger strike until DP goes to the GP?

[RevoltingPeasant]

Okay, well possibly not, since I couldn't give up cheese for that long, but....

DP has a chronic prostate problem - has for years. Yonks ago, he was told by a GP that there was nothing to do but grin and bear it. When we went to see our new GP in the autumn, she said, 'Hmm, try xx medicine that we always prescribe, I don't think a urologist could do anything for you, but we might possibly see in the future'.

So - he had another bout in Feb - took the medicine again - 6 weeks later, still in pain.

Would he go to the GP to report it? NO!

I had to go about 3 weeks ago myself so raised it with her - she obviously didn't exactly remember him but when I described the case to her she said, 'Well, maybe he should be referred.' Bingo!

So all he had to do was make an appointment soonish, so she would remember, and go along. Has he? NO!

He is always in low-level pain - when we go out for a long walk, when we try to have sex, when he cycles. But he won't DO anything! It drives me mad.

I am now seriously thinking of taking extreme measures to force him to go to the dr. What about
a - hunger strike
b- leaving notes fricken everywhere reminding him
c- sleeping in the spare room till he goes
d- any other suggestions????

Er sorry for massive essay But really, at wits' end right now

Most men are notoriously bad for going to the doctors. Book the appointment yourself and tell him he is going! Go with him.

alpha I did that the time that we went in the autumn. But I don't know his work schedule and we both have busy jobs so it's hard to find a time when we can both make it.

What alphabite said

Respond to ANYTHING he says to you with 'Have you booked that appointment yet?' He'll soon get sick of it and book in!

Sorry x post

Dawn belieeeeeeeeeeve me I can nag for England. I have actually gone to the extent freak that I am of using my work Outlook to message his work email with an appointment reminder thing that pops up saying 'Book GP'.

It didn't work!!! He says he can't take the time off work. But we just came back from holiday!

Blow job when he comes back from the Drs ought to do it

Well damn....does he sound stubborn. Guess you'll have to go with redexpat's suggestion..

Well, just sit him down and say you would like to go through his will/pension/life assurance arrangements/guardianship details for the children/funeral arrangements etc etc. Be tough, state that you are worried and if he won't go to the GP at least you know you are prepared practically.

Then it's up to him whether he goes to the GP or not but it might make him think about the consequences. (Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I've had family in the same situation )

red you have pitched on the 1 bloke in the entire UK that wouldn't work for as his prostate probs cause pain during sex so we haven't been having much of that, either, and even if he does get referred it will probably take some time to settle.

rag you may be right.........

Or I may just revert to whining persuasion.

He could have bloody cancer the twat!!!

Tell him there is a new treatment using ultrasound or radiowaves or some such which doesnt cause side effects like incontinence or impotence.

men are such eejits. my H never listened to my nagging and had a heart attack at 40!