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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this is fair?

21 replies

DefiniteMaybe · 17/04/2012 08:23

A few weeks ago my OH had a win on online bingo of about £180. He bought me a kindle with his winnings so £89. Last week I had a win of about £1500 so he asked me to pay for him to do his cbt which was £110. Seemed fair enough to me to treat him. Probably would have done anyway without him having bought the kindle.
So was chatting to my mum and she's gone mad saying he's taking advantage and I shouldn't have paid for it. Am still pretty sure I'm right but thought I'd put it to the mn jury.

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TheCunningStunt · 17/04/2012 08:25

YANBU

Cantabide · 17/04/2012 08:26

Well technically you had 49% of your oh's winnings spent on you, so if you were going to be fair you'd be giving him £735.

So spending £110 on CBT (whatever that is) for him is not as fair. But certainly not him taking advantage.

LaurieFairyCake · 17/04/2012 08:26

I'd have given him £750 - he gave you half of his winnings.

If he's your OH then money is shared, yes?

Is this a reverse AIBU? Hmm

only4tonight · 17/04/2012 08:26

I think you are right. Your money, do what you want with it. Half way through I thought you were going to say he demanded half, now that would be unreasonable.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 17/04/2012 08:28

Your mum is being unreasonable.

But once again we have a bizarre his money/my money situation...

only4tonight · 17/04/2012 08:28

Oh I was assuming separate finances.

ramblinrose · 17/04/2012 08:28

YANBU
Sounds fair to me (although I don't know what cbt stands for!)

DPrince · 17/04/2012 08:28

Yanbu. Regardless of the kindle, its your money to do as you wish. As he is your oh, why not?. Unless you owe your mum money and aren't paying her back, I can't see what it has to do with her, or why she has a problem.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 17/04/2012 08:29

It woud be unreasonable if you didn't share good fortune with your partner.

justmatureenough2bdad · 17/04/2012 08:31

if it helps to think about the percentages...he spent 50% of his win on you....he is asking for less than 10% of yours...

Whatmeworry · 17/04/2012 08:31

What's it got to do with your mother? Also she's nuts, £90 and £110 are near as dammit a swop.

PoppadumPreach · 17/04/2012 08:32

not very nice of your Mum. It's not about "fairness", it's about sharing and being kind - fundamental tenets of a good marriage.

FluffStar · 17/04/2012 08:34

YANBU, it's nice to treat each other. You were just reciprocating something he had done for you.

Original poster
DefiniteMaybe · 17/04/2012 08:58

Haha when I said fair I meant fair for me. We don't live together so no joint finances. Glad to know you all think my mum is wrong.

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ineedabodytransplant · 17/04/2012 09:01

rambling,

CBT is the test you have to take/pass to be able to ride a motorcycle.

Unless it's some weird stuff I don't know about.

ineedabodytransplant · 17/04/2012 09:02

Sorry, CBT = compulsory bike training

squeakytoy · 17/04/2012 09:32

So did you Mum think it was unfair of you to let him get you the Kindle?

YANBU but your mother is...

HokeyCokeyPigInaPokey · 17/04/2012 09:34

YANBU i would have given him more or brought him something lovely too.

knowitallstrikesagain · 17/04/2012 09:35

YANBU.

NEVER discuss finances with a judgy meddling mother!

Gumby · 17/04/2012 09:36

I thought you were talking about counselling - cognitive behaviour training!

FlameProofNightie · 17/04/2012 09:39

No fucking idea but i REALLY need to start playing bingo...

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