to make xH pay me this tenner?

[hathorinareddress69]

DD2 is going on a school trip.

I paid the trip, he squared me for his half, didn't have the right money so said he would stand the pocket money (they're only allowed a tenner, the difference was a tenner)

Getting DD2 ready last night (she goes tomorrow) and I asked her where her purse was with her money in it. She hasn't any.

Had to phone him re clothes he didn't send and I said "What about DD2 pocket money"

"Oh I forgot can you give it to her"

I said yes, but I said he'd have to give it to me - he then said I was being petty for the sake of a tenner.

Am I?

YANBU

It amazes me in how many situations when someone owes money or is asking for money - the response oh it's only a tenner.

Well if it's only, then it's no problem for you to pay me back then is it.

It's only a tenner .... soon adds up. YANBU.

YANBU. Remind him when he's in a position to do something about it.

The thing that has pissed me off is he forgot to send the stuff she needed that's at his (wellies, sleeping bag, that sort of thing). He wanted me to go up there to get them I said no you had the list from the school and I texted and emailed and asked you to send them you said you would you didn't you can drop them here.

So he's actually coming here tonight with them.

So why the actual bastard fuck can't he go to the hole in the wall, get a tenner out, and give it to me tonight?

If he was the kind of person who didn't forget to send his child with what she needed or was willing to go to the cashpoint because he owes you money I guess he might not be your ex! YANBU.

He's not mean or tight, he just doesn't like anything that hassles him or breaks his routine. Which remembering stuff that isn't normal would do. And me making him bring it here instead of going there for it is disturbing his plans.

He finds it really difficult at the start of a new term when the kids days to do stuff change if he ends up on his night having to deal with swimming kit or netball or if there's a birthday party he has to take them to.

He likes rigid and "organised"

YANBU £10 is a lot of money to me right now.

Some weeks, Chaotic, it is to me too - although thankfully not this week.

It's brought into focus the larger issue that he's very rigid and can't cope with change.

But that's not a new issue.

And he's not my problem any more.

But it impacts on the kids. And yes they should remember themselves about the stuff (DD should have reminded him she had the list too but she left the stuff out in bags at his front door and he didn't lift it. She says she couldn't carry it it was too heavy).

But it's also about him not coping with the normals of life with kids. Which is my fault. Because until we split I always did it.

(Sorry, I know I'm not making sense)