More of a what would you do really. I'll try not to make it too long:
Friends with a couple, I'll call them Mr & Mrs to make things simple.
My DH is v good friends with Mr, has been since school. Mrs is my best friend's cousin.
Mrs has cheated on Mr once that I definitely know of but more probably a few times. She doesn't work, he does....v high powered job and earns a lot. Tbh I've always had her pegged as a gold digger. She boasts about how much he earns, always 'forgets' her purse (she did this even when she had a job), etc, etc.
On more than one occasion she has admitted she doesn't fancy him but likes the lifestyle he provides. This annoys me as he's a very nice bloke but I have never said anything as i think each to their own...for all i know he likes being able to provide and his oh not to have to work.
She is very pretty and he puts her on a pedestal. He has self esteem issues with how he looks (has no reason to...he looks fine).
So, they are now getting married. I think he's making a mistake but again, not for me to say, it's up to him who he marries/how he lives his life. I have considered raising my concerns because I don't want him to be taken for a mug but haven't.
Anyhoo...I've been nothing but nice to Mrs but she seems to have a problem with me. I think this is because she knows I'm aware of one of the cheating incidents and things she has said re not fancying him. That's fair enough and i can completely understand. However I've never given her any cause to think i'd stir things up and I'm always friendly around her cos I'm all for second chances and if she is what makes my friend happy so be it.
Her problem with me manifests itself in a few ways but i've always ignored it as I'm trying to rise above her petty behaviour. However this weekend we're going on someone else's hen do. I asked her for a lift. she said yes. Fine. But then i found out she'd literally asked everyone else if they wanted a lift, leaving me out. Ok, still fine. Her car, she can do as she pleases with it (bit embarrassing for me not to be asked though).
Now I have found out she was due to be sharing a room with me and my best friend (her cousin) but she has asked to be put with other people. What concerns me is I'm not sure what reason she has given for this to the organiser. When I asked the organiser she swerved the question and clearly felt awkward/put on the spot. Which leaves me wondering what has she said as I haven't done anything.
I'm getting a strong feeling (trying not to be paranoid) she's made something unflattering about me up. And while i'm all for live and let live, I don't want my other friends talking about me especially since whatever she had said isn't true (cos I can't believe she'd give the real reason).
I am trying so just ignore her and rise above but it's getting difficult now....I feel like I'm being provoked!
So aibu to try and find out what's going on? Or should i bite my tongue as I have been.
Sorry it's long...think i've covered the major points. Don't want to drip feed...any comments, suggestions appreciated.