To feel dissapointed that ds was not given an invite over to friends house

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Ds has a good friend at school who we regularly invite over after school sometimes for sleepovers or on days out.
We took ds and his mate out at the start of the holidays and treated them both etc.
The mates mom is always mentioning a return invite for ds and that she will text me etc however she never does.
I have waited in anticipation for a invite all during the easter holiday as my ds can get bored at times but one never came.
Do you think I am right to feel a bit dissapointed about this and that she could of at least spared a few hours somewhere during the holiday for him.

Dont spite a 10year old boy because his mom hasnt invited your DS over. Its not his fault. If you take him out for an invite to his house for your son then your doing it for the wrong reasons. If your DS wanted to go round to his friends house would he not say to his friend or even to the mother?? xx

Re. Mom/mum...well that explains one of DMIL's linguistic quirks...and there I was thinking she was mad. I still think she might be.

OP, we've had one of my DD's friends over to play a good few times without it being reciprocated. Her mum eventually explained it's because they've got building work at their house and she doesn't think it's safe for children other than her own to be around. Could be a perfectly innocent explanation. Or maybe she has no money at the moment?

If your ds likes his company, and you like your ds having someone to play with, invite him. If not, then don't.
I've never understood this MN thing of having to 'take turns' .
Over the years we've had times when life is just too busy in our house to start inviting extra children over - we both work and all dcs do something on one day or another after school so it's not possible to find a free night when I would be in to supervise a guest (as in, can leave mine home alone whilst I collect another one, but wouldn't do for someone else's child). We do then invite people in the hols, but it tends to be an ad hoc - "Would you like to come and play this afternoon?" which some people never can as they are always 'booked up'.
OTOH, some of ds's mates (they are 15/16) now seem to live here, and he doesn't ever go into their houses. That's fine to. It's just the way things work out - no point in depriving your dcs of their friends company just because you feel someone else ought to 'host'. Life doesn't alway work out like that.