to think shouting at pre-schoolers is not really ok?

[FuckedOfftotheFarSideofFuck]

I am not hoiking my judgey pants up - I have shouted at my pre-schoolers but I aspire to not shouting at them! Some days, patience snaps, shouting happens, this I understand.

However, someone of my acquaintance seems to make it part of discipline for his pre-schoolers. Sometimes it is just patience snapping, I assume but sometimes the shouting seems to be how he think discipline should be doled out.

Should I send him a dvd of Supernanny or should I stop watching it myself?!

merci

That's brilliantly observed. When I worked in a gallery, there were loads of parents like that. Their kids would be running riot (usually in scruffy/dirty but expensive clothes from places like Boden) whilst they gawped at the art and make feeble attempts to 'reason' with little Griffin or Cordellia.

Although i stopped my yelling at every little thing I am not one of those parents who cant discipline my children i developed the voice which would stop them in their tracks , ,

I used to live next door to a couple who would scream "you F-ing slag" at their three year old - I couldn't see the point.

generally we don't shout at DS (2.8) but try to use our "teacher voices", very firm but not actually a shout but every now and again we do, as you said out of frustration and it instantly reduces him to tears. We feel bad but you do need something in your armoury to sometimes just bring them up short. DP sometimes (very rarely) genuinely loses his rag though, usually if DS has lashed out and hurt him (he has a habit of scratching your face or neck if really in a temper) and has shouted loudly enough to turn heads. Always instantly brings tears to my eyes - it scares me, let alone DS..so I try to head of situations like that (tbf has only happened about three times)

I think there is a difference in shouting a command at a child "stop that right now" and shouting when telling off.

I shout and it works, my calm, voice just doesn't cut the mustard, when I shout I shout, and they know that I mean business.

Suppose it depends on the child/ren

My mum was a shouter and it was humiliating.

I try not to shout because I don't think it's healthy to force your frustrations onto another person, adult or child. If I ask one of my children something and they ignore me, walking out the door etc then I go and get them.

Isn't there a saying or something that goes along the lines of if you end up shouting you have lost the battle? I don't know about that because most days it feels like Ive lost the battle!

YANBU to think shouting at pre-schoolers is not really ok.