To think they should of been a bit quieter?

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Need to know if I am being unreasonable or not...

On Friday me and DB attended the EPU after we had a private scan on the Wednesday, unfortunately our scan showed that our baby did not make it passed nine weeks and had no heartbeat.

We were then seen at the EPU on the Friday to be told the same thing again, they needed to check as well to have record of it.

Whilst we were waiting to see the Dr to do pre op bloods etc there were two women in the waiting room with us who we think knew each other, they were so loud and giggling away talking about one of them maybe having an ectopic pregnancy...(They were talking so loudly, waiting room is so small due to the normal ward being refurbished) You couldn't get away from it.

It was all I could do not to burst in to tears.

AIBU in thinking they should of been a bit quieter? People at the EPU can come out with devastating news and I just thought it wasn't the time or the place, Or am I being too sensitive?

Wow.

No, you're not being unreasonable in expecting a little bit of empathy for other people's situations.

But at the same time, if one of them was GIGGLING at the prospect that she may be suffering an ectopic pregnancy, I'd guess she had all sorts of her own issues at the moment and probably wasn't thinking of anyone else.

I'm very sorry for your loss :(

I'm so sorry to hear that

I suppose yes, you are being a little unreasonable but I can also understand why.

Hmm
I sat in the waiting room at the epu giggling and chatting with my best mate. I was waiting for a scan after a bleed. I was very worried and scared and didn't handle it brilliantly. I highly doubt that the woman was genuinely laughing or that she was being heartless towards you. Pregnancy loss is a weird thing and you can't predict how you will react.

And I'm sorry about your mc x

Yabu but understandbly so. Sorry this has happened to you x

Yanbu. So sorry about your mc x

You are being, understandably very sensitive.

One scan I went to had people coming out to the scanning room either grinning from ear to ear, or in tears. I've always felt a bit awful that I came out grinning, and walked through the room of nervous waiting people, but I couldn't help it as I'd just had the best news ever.

If the woman was giggling about the possibly of an eptopic pregnancy, then I guess she had her own stuff to deal with in her own way. The trouble with hostiptals is that you do get to hear about other people fortune/misfortune.

Gentle YABU. Perhaps giggling is the way that lady copes? I've been known to laugh when the alternative is bawling.

Dificult . I remember sitting in the EPU waiting for a scan to confirm my MC and then a couple of weeks later to check for retained products. I was surrounded by happy people waiting for their scans for (I am assuming) morepleasant reasons each time. To be honest I was too wrapped up in my own little world to care really.

I think different people get through difficult situations in different ways. They probably thought they were jollying themselves through a tricky time while you felt you were having your nose rubbed in it. Either way, please don't think too much about it, you are having a hard enough time as it is. I hope you are getting lots of support and r being very kind to yourself.

YANBU. I am so sorry you've had such an awful loss. I was in the doctors waiting room and my DC were playing loudly on the big climbing train thing they have....when a member of staff asked me to please keep them quieter as someone was very ill.

I was so embarrassed as I realised even though it was only the GPs some people are recieiving bad news or going through hard treatment. People should be aware of others in medical places.

i'm VERY sorry for your loss.

we had a similar experience in the IVF clinic. People are just selfcentred. its nature. its not nice, but its nature.

The maternity hospital I had dd and ds in (1+5yrs) has closed down now but the epu was in the same waiting room as all other scans and abortions. I had to have a lot of scans for various reasons but always felt awful for people who got bad news.

Yabu I think she/ they were probably nervous but I can understand. In these situations everything always seems magnified.

Sorry for your loss.