I snore. I know I snore. I tell current DP I snore (in advance). So ....

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AIBU to expect him to NOT make such a fucking big pisstake song and dance about the fact that I snored during the night? especially as he does too!

One previous partner even had the fucking gall to record me and play it back the next day, whilst saying it was "cute". It wasn't like Concorde flying over or anything, just kinda soft grunty snores.

Am I some kind of circus freak that they have NEVER heard a woman snore?

My husband snores. It pisses me off as it can keep me awake. I've recorded him so he can hear just how bad his snoring is. It prompted him into making a doctor's appointment.

Fair enough Lizzy, but this is maybe one night a fortnight after he has had great sex ; and he wakes several times a night anyway whether I am there or not. I have told him to nudge me, or wake me, etc. It's the fact he is pointing out the bleedin' obvious, when in fact I am mortified if I wake up in the night and find I am on my back, thus potentially have been snoring.

I snore. DP snores. We live with it fine.
My ex, however, was a nutter who hated it. He tried to suffocate me once because of it. I guess it gets to some more than others.

I couldn't sleep in the same room as a snorer, the noise would drive me insane, I'd never sleep with that. Have you been to the doctor about it? If there's a medical reason, it can be sorted.

DH used to snore and I am a very light sleeper. It made my life a living hell. I didn't actually realise just how bad it had gotten until it stopped. Chronic lack of sleep kinda creeps up on you. You lose the person you once were.

It was only after he got his CPAP machine that I realised it caused me depression, it had changed my appetite and eating habits, I felt physically ill most days. I wasn't living I was existing in a caffiene fuelled blur.

My life is wholly different now.

YABU.

I have a whole new respect for people who suffer lack of sleep because of disabled children. How they do it day in day out for years without complaint in the main part, baffles me.

Are you a bit overweight, OP? I believe that can make a difference.

Have you been to the doctor?

It would drive me mad sleeping with someone who snores, but also with someone who knows they snore and doesn't do anything about it.

Sorry for being a bore here but those of you who snore/have snoring partners, PLEASE go to the GP.

Firstly - sleep apnoea can kill. Many people could have SA but not know it because snoring is just thought of as 'one of those things'.

Secondly - it could actually be something much simpler. I was completely hypocritical and didn't go to the GP for ages, terrified that I had sleep apnoea (my dad does - he uses a CPAP machine)... Finally went and the GP checked me over. Turns out my nostrils have polyps he gave me a steroid spray and tadaaaaa! No more snoring unless I forget in which case DH ends up sleeping on the couch :o I am REALLY glad I went now.

TBH I was massively tempted to put a pillow over DHs face last night. I eventually slept in DS1's bottom bunk - I could still hear the snoring through 2 shut doors but did manage to get some sleep.

He us off to the doctors next week.

Thanks for the input.

No, not overweight according to BMI, nor do I drink more than a couple of glasses of wine on the odd occasion.

I can completely understand that sleeping with a (heavy) snorer night after night would get you to the point of wanting to smother them, lol, but I think that part of my annoyance is that a) it's once a fortnight that we managed to get rid of all the kids and have sex a full night to ourselves, and b) he also snores, and if it was something he had forewarned me of, then I would NOT be taking the piss out of him.

but doubts he will take me seriously

When I lay on my back I snore. It's just one of those things.

My dh used to box (for the army) and has had his nose broken three times; he snores in every position he sleeps in, so I use foam ear plugs. Dh is actually happy that I snore cos I can't take the piss anymore

YANBU OP - he was prewarned, and is being an arse especially as he snores too.

If I lived with a snorer it would definitely be seperate bedrooms. Most snorers don't have sleep apnoea.

I snore due to having had a broken nose. Like tapir's DH, it starts as soon as my eyes close. It depresses me dreadfully. I can't go on holiday due to complaints about my noise. I avoid going anywhere that I might meet men, I know I can't even think about a new relationship until it's fixed. The sleep deprivation I inflicted on my 2 previous partners led to DV.

But I cannot have it fixed until DS is old enough to look after himself, both while I am in hospital having it fixed or in case the general anesthetic kills me. I had one once and it was touch and go that I survived due to an extreme reaction.

At my wits end what to do

I snore loudly too and DH and I have different rooms as he is a light sleeper and I would try not to go to sleep unless he was just in case I started snoring. It didn't work and neither have the nose strips, mouth guards, nose sprays etc.

At least this way we both get a decent nice sleep and don't wan tto kill each other.

If it was once a fortnight I think we would just put up with it becasue the sex would be worth it

We both snore, but I'm a lighter sleeper than DH so I wear earplugs. Suggest you buy DP some :)

Mandy Your snoring did not cause DV - that was their cuntishness only - {{{hugs}}} to you

So sorry for you - if you ever start another relationship just have seperate rooms - I would quite happily sleep apart from my partner if his or my snoring got too much.

I snore, I have had ear, nose and throat problems my entire life. Luckily DH is a deep sleeper. He also snores, but lucky for him my ENT probs mean I am deaf in one ear...I just roll over so my 'good' ear is on the pillow.

(especially handy when ignoring early rising son)

I once managed to wake myself up with my own snoring.

Kickme, yep me too, except I do it on a fairly regular basis . Not overweight etc, just one of those things. One of the sweetest things DH has ever said is that he genuinely worries when I'm not snoring as he thinks I'm no longer breathing! That was when I knew he was a keeper, as I've had people refuse to share rooms with me before due to the snoring !

DH and I both snore. If dh's snoring wakes me, I just give him a gentle push and whisper to him to turn over. The first time I did it he woke up and I told him quietly that he was snoring and should turn over, which he did. Nowadays he never wakes, just grunts and turn onto his side.

If your bf snores too, you can take the piss back, surely?

"Mandy2003 Sun 15-Apr-12 20:01:14
The sleep deprivation I inflicted on my 2 previous partners led to DV."

Please do NOT blame yourself for their failings. Parents of newborns up and down the country manage to be sleep deprived without being violent towards the cause or anyone else. Sleep deprivation is awful, I am not downplaying it. I was snappy and grumpy. I was not violent!

If the snoring is a genuine problem for him, then he needs to bring it up in a reasonable manner, not by taking the mickey out of you or by making a big song and dance. He also has a cheek making a fuss if he snores too.

Mandy, I'm so sorry you've been through that. I know I'm going to sound like an echo, but it was NOT your fault! You did not control their actions, the responsibilty is with them.