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To be a bit fearful about DS playing in the woods?

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ChickenSkin · 14/04/2012 22:39

DS has made a new friend through mutual school friends. He doesn't go to his primary school but IS going to the same secondary school in September. They're 11 years old.

Since DS met this lad they have been going off on their bikes to a particular park near the other boys' house. Near the park is a field with horses and beyond that, a wooded area and a train line.

I'm not sure why I'm frightened but I am. They can't get on the trainline and I would hope he would be sensible enough not to try (I've told him horror stories of people getting trapped/electrocuted/hit by trains and have also warned him that CCTV covers ALL trainlines and he is at an age where he can be arrested for trespassing) so I don't think he would dare go on the lines. So why am I so fearful? I used to play in the same wooded area when I was younger than him, often on my own. It has little streams, little wooden bridges - the kind of stuff you'd expect to see in a horror film Blush

He went out at 9.30am and didn't come back until 7pm (I kept in constant contact via text message). When he came back he told me he'd played in the park with his friend, been BMXing, fed the horses (big clumps of grass, nothing else), played in the forest, built a dam, been to chippy courtesy of the other boys mum - and when he got in he fell asleep on the sofa!

I'm torn between been pleased he's living a "proper little lad's life" and been frightened something will happen to him Sad

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callmemrs · 15/04/2012 10:12

I think it's A million times less scary than in pre-mobile phone days.
You say you kept in constant contact with him throughout the day, so I'm not sure what the problem is? (unless you have reason to worry about what the other lad is like)

By all means get him to 'touch' base at home during the day if you want, but I can't see how that's hugely different to texting or calling. Back in the day, getting the kid to drop in back at home every so often was the ONLY way of knowing everything was ok. It really is so much easier these days. Sounds like he had a great day doing all the things a boy likes doing

ragged · 15/04/2012 10:40

I let 12yo DS play on the heath for similar hours doing similar things with a gang of same(ish) age friends. They have a blast. I usually forget to ring, he doesn't turn his phone on anyway. We often pop down for an hour or so to check on them all. The only big drawback is DS comes home completely exhausted from digging holes & is kind of useless for next 36 hours.

But must admit I don't want 10yo DD to join them. More protective about girls.

YouChangeWithTheWeather · 15/04/2012 10:54

can you scare the shit out of him make him watch those scary 1980s public information films about trainlines ("Jimmy won't need his football boots anymore") and any other relevant ones? And get a tracker, make sure he's home for lunch and as 10p for the phone box Wink

I have visions of 11 year old boys needing a constant supply of food - where's he getting that from between 9.30am and 7pm?

TheSockPuppet · 15/04/2012 18:35

ragged, why would you be more protective over girls?

mumblesmum · 15/04/2012 18:55

On field near house with mates 8y made random and secret checks
To friend's houses /woods/rec 10 y fingernails bitten to quick
Down town 11y spied
Rowing on Thames with lots
of big boats around! (AAh!) 13y+ spied and was tempted to take swimming togs and rubber ring in backpack
Reading Festival (2y) 16y worried like crazy, watched news 24/7
Ibiza 18y nearly lost my marbles
Art college 18y only worried when he was at home
Uni 20y I think I've come to my senses! have realised that I'm not in control of his life. Only worry about the 'bigger' picture - jobs, health, etc. (and then only sporadically)

It IS getting better!

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