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To hope karma bites my creepy colleague on the arse?

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TremoloGreen · 14/04/2012 00:54

There's a guy at work, he's in a senior management position. I've kept my distance from him since he came over a bit creepy at the work Christmas party. Since then, he emailed me a few times, kind of flirty things, intimated that he wasn't that happy with his home life (married with two very young children). I ignored the lot, but it came down to the fact that I had to spell out to him very clearly that I am happily married. Hmm

I've now found out that he is shagging a (24yo young for her age) girl who works for him - he is her line manager. I just see it all ending horribly for her and him walking off scot-free and it makes me sick. I know there's nothing I can do... AIBU to wish bad things on him?? I honestly don't know why this is bothering me so much.

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plutocrap · 14/04/2012 01:33

Of course it bothers you! And it bothers you so much because you see in this "girl" what he would have made of you and your situation. Sadly, she's likely to be/feel forced out when it all goes wrong.

plutocrap · 14/04/2012 01:34

Of course it bothers you! And it bothers you so much because you see in this "girl" what he would have made of you and your situation. Sadly, she's likely to be/feel forced out when it all goes wrong.

plutocrap · 14/04/2012 01:35

Of course it bothers you! And it bothers you so much because you see in this "girl" what he would have made of you and your situation. Sadly, she's likely to be/feel forced out when it all goes wrong.

plutocrap · 14/04/2012 01:35

Of course it bothers you! And it bothers you so much because you see in this "girl" what he would have made of you and your situation. Sadly, she's likely to be/feel forced out when it all goes wrong.

AKissIsNotAContract · 14/04/2012 01:45

24 isn't that young, she should be mature enough to know not to fuck about with married men with children. I do agree that he sounds like a total arse though. He didn't seem to care who he had an affair with as long as he got one. I feel sorry for his wife, I hope she ditches him rather than putting up with his crap.

mockingjay · 14/04/2012 04:19

Whether or not 24 is young he is abusing his power if he is her boss. Not a lot you can do though OP. Do you know the girl at all?

AKissIsNotAContract · 14/04/2012 08:07

She's not a girl, at 24 she's a woman.

wheresthepopcorn · 14/04/2012 08:18

At 21, my boss told me that he wanted to have an affair with me. I refused. My work life was made very difficult after that. I think he sounds like a horrible person. The wierd thing is that these horrible people still find people who will sleep with them.

mockingjay · 14/04/2012 10:54

You are right, she is a woman. But the main problem is the boss.

Snowboarder · 14/04/2012 11:01

I wasn't much older than 24 when I got married myself so I'm not sure her age is an ameliorating factor here. She must know he is married with a family and tbh she deserves whatever she gets if that is the case.

But you're right, he is a complete scumbag and I hope a pigeon shits on his lapels! Grin

Hoebag · 14/04/2012 12:11

A 24 yr old is more than capable of not having an affair and telling someone where to go, you said shes very young does she have LD?

I hope this man's wife finds out and leaves him sharpish.

ABigGirlDoneItAndRanAway · 14/04/2012 12:11

He sounds like an absolute knobend but I don't have that much sympathy if it ends badly for her, I agree with the posters who have said it's her choice to sleep with a married man and she is old enough to know what she is doing and deal with the consequences, same goes for him if his wife finds out about it.

hiddenhome · 14/04/2012 15:13

You should anonymously inform his wife. I'd want to know if I was her Sad

LaurieFairyCake · 14/04/2012 15:19

Complain to even more senior management - they probably have policies preventing fraternisation at work. Particularly since he is so much more senior than her.

everlong · 14/04/2012 15:24

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plutocrap · 14/04/2012 18:13

Apologies for the extra posts; it looked as though the site had frozen, so I kept pressing post! Oops.

twoistwiceasfun · 14/04/2012 20:45

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