DS sick in SIL's car

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DS delivered home and SIL a bit annoyed - seemed to expect that it was DW's job to go and clean out her car [hmmm]

Well, it would have been nice for one of his parents to have offered to clean it up surely?

I would definitely have offered if my DC had up-chucked in someone's car! Why would you think it's down to your SIL to clear up?

you think SIL should clear up your son's vomit? seriously?

Ditto redhelen

Exactly what Red said

I would at least expect one of the parents to offer

I would expect to offer to clean it up. I would have done it for my dn but not sure I would have pre my own children.

I am sorry but it is down to the parent to clean it up as best they can and then offer to have the car valeted.

Okay, back down feeling shame-faced.

With the rest. What on earth makes youthink that one of you shouldn't do it?

YABU - if a child is sick, at home, at another persons house or in their car then one of the parents should do the clearing up.

Your child. Your responsibility.

Unless SIL filled him full of crap of course

I'd have had my rubber gloves on and been out the door with my bucket with cleaning stuff in it that is in the cuboard for 'sick' occurances before she would have ended her sentence!

YABVVVVVVVVU not to have apologised a lot and offered to clean it up.

How old is ds? Is he wee? Was he poorly or just a bit of milky-baby sick? Had she treated him to too many ice-creams and sweets then wondered why he was ill?

Bottom line is, yes, yabvu.

At least offer or give some money to have it cleaned.

Erm, yes... it's kind of your job.

YABU not to have tried cleaning it up..

My sister had a new car, and took one of my DD's out in it - obviously DD and the 'new car smell' didn't mix, and she threw up.
I felt awful, my sister kept saying that it didn't matter, and that these things happen - I still went out and spent ages scrubbing the car! But in the end I organised for a local person to come round and clean it properly as the smell just wouldn't come out.

It's whoever's job who can cope with the sick - in this house it's DH's job.

And then you need to pay to have the car valeted. And apologise profusely.

Note: only applies if the child is under 12, after that they can clean it up themselves.

Is this yet another reverse unreasonable ?

have you taken someone else's child out for the day and it upchucked in your car?

I'm with everyone else, it was one of the parent's jobs to have cleaned it up.

Let me just check if I'm reading this right?

You are the Dad.

Your son threw up in his Aunt's car.

His Aunt thought your wife should clean it up - but not you?

Is this about whetehr it's a mum or dad's job to clean up children's vomit?

Is that what you mean?

Or was your wife the one who was home? In which case then obviously she should clean it. But if you were there too why didn't you do it?

YABU

And obviously it's the parent's job to clean it up - didn't make that clear!

if my child had been sick in someone's car then of course i would offer to clean it up!
why on earth wouldn't you??

I think OP has got the message we think he's BU now.

Salmotrutta - it was op's SIL so she probably automatically thought the responsibility was her sister's