wedding gift

[feelmeanbut]

I'm going to a dn's formal wedding - sit down 4 course meal for me and dh - am intending to give £200 gift (cash instead of gifts requested) only one wage earner, and on average saary, am I being too mean?

yeahthats,, I agree really, they will be more than happy with a genuine , personal message, and us being there, thanks for this reminder, I've probably just regained my perspective

Irish wedding?

Our god-daughter is getting married soon and we are thinking of giving a similar amount.

No, £100 (+£45 champagne flutes from the DDs) from me to my cousin. My other cousin will get about the same.
One decently paid wage earner here. But we've had to have different posh frocks for both because so many of the same people are going.

Should say we got our hotel room paid for and she was my brides maid otherwise it would have been £100 total. DDs brides maid at this summers and the bride has been lovely with her.

I think it's far too much. My mum and siblings gave my cousin £100 between 4 of us.

we are going to a wedding next week and I thought the ettiquette was to cover the cost of your meal. we are pretty broke and I have never met bride or groom, so just bought $100 of towels off their registry. I would think your gift is about right for an aunt. we were gifted cash between £50 and £500 at our wedding from relatives. don't give more than you can't comfortably afford though... we had a cheque bou bounce from some guests and it caused a rift as we didnt want to mention it to them, they were affronted we never requested a replacement cheque. better to give what you can't manage and not stress about everyone else.

You say you get on well? Then how about £50-75 and a bottle of bubbly for their first anniversary?

I'd say £100 is a good compromise and very generous. When we got married lots of people gave us money of varying amounts, it wouldn't have occurred to me to think anything about the amounts (well, unless we were given £1 in dirty pennies) :o

Unbelievably generous.

Very generous [are you bragging]

If someone asks for money I am in the camp of you will get what your given.

I never give money for a wedding present its a damn cheek.

If you dont need anything when you get married ie towels toaster iron....... you dont need anything so ''ask for no gifts''

£100 here and some £40 glasses off the DDs and she was my bridesmaid, her brother for whom DD2 is brides lauding will get about the same.

With both weddings have cost me a fortune in shoes and posh frocks and petrol.

Friends have got about £100, we bought helium balloons and decorated the reception rather than a formal gift. Other friend about £50, but a very small do for someone who'd been with DP for 20 years. She'd have been at anything more, got her work friends to do Oxfam gifts.

Don't mind giving money at all. Non of these weddings were for people setting up home.

I think you should give what you can afford. We usually spend about £100 on a wedding gift (not that we've been to one for ages so perhaps a bit more now). However, if they have a gift list I think you are being unreasonable not to spend the money on a gift from the list.

£200 is far too much.
Personally I think it's selfish to ask for money that will just be spent and gone. The traditional idea of a present is something that stays with the recipient as a reminder of the occasion and your wish to mark it.
If the couple have been together and already have all the household items then something decorative would be suitable.
But then my mum says I'm old-fashioned!

That's more than generous....even £100 would be very generous.

Having said that....if my favourite nephews/nieces got married in years to come I too would be very generous in giving to them