to have taken 47 years to realise I am not a gardener

[OrmIrian]

My mum has fingers so green she can make EVERYTHING grow. Ditto my big brother. I do not. Really. Not at all. i want to be a real gardener. I want to have seedlings and cuttings sprouting out of hundreds of random containers. I want to fill all the spaces in my garden with interesting plants tht don't instantly protest by dying on me . I even have a greenhouse now since we moved - it's full of dead plants that I planted last year with great enthusiasm .

Dad is like me. He likes wielding a mower, a rotivator and weedkiller and planting too many trees but he isn't a gardener.

I have realised that what I actually like is pottering and pootling. I do a bit of weeding, a little light seed-planting, some planting out and a bit of planning that comes to very little. That realisation has come as a big relief as it happens.

I wouldn't know where to start, have zero interest even. Which is not good considering we've just moved to a house with a bigger garden

DH used to be a landscape gardener though you wouldn't know it so I shall leave it to him. As long as I've got my fancy decking with lights I don't care.

I even managed to kill the little plant thingy (no idea what it may have been) that DS proudly gave me for mother's day

Come over to the come into the garden with Maud thread. We'll indoctrinate you offer useful and constructive advice.

I'm the same, with a similar family background of dedicated gardeners, and I've come to the conclusion that I'd like to be thought of as keeping our garden nice but in reality I just can't be arsed haven't got it in me

We've ended up going for lots of perenials (perennials?) and shrubs in the places that need weeding

I always mx up the words "perennial" and "perenium"

Just as well I'm neither a gardener or a gynaecologist

I think I'll go for the "wild" garden look. Dig around a bit and throw some random mixed bag of seeds around, see what comes up.

YY to our garden being 'wildlife friendly' shakey

I often use that as justification to myself that I should sit inside and MN instead of grafting in the garden.

i am rubbish at gardening, i cut the grass and even that looks like a very bad haircut lol.

my mum however buys plants that are close to death cost 5p and they come back to life, my dad is a keen gardener and grows all his own fruit and veg (very tasty aswell). I think i must of been adopted lol

Me too! I frustrate my mum so much because she adores gardening but has a small garden, whilst we have a larger garden but don't have a clue and end up paying a friend to come and sort it out for us (the big, messy stuff). I love growing stuff from seeds but nothing ever thrives under my care!

"I do a bit of weeding, a little light seed-planting, some planting out and a bit of planning that comes to very little"

Sounds like a gardener to me. I aspire to this level