OMG WIBU

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Saw my pg friend today out in the shopping centre she came upto me and we hugged( huge relief scan today baby given the all clear from something very serious) saw her last week and she was very distressed, today relief.

I gave her daughter a hug and she hugged me as she always done as with my little ones ( she's not been well in hospital serious eye operation etc ) and then I gave her hubby a one arm hello pat on the back hug.. was I being over affectionate or creepy. I was so relieved for them but suddenly thought omg am I being over familiar.

I obviously don't know why I gave him a pat on the back never have b4 she just was choking from relief and I was just happy for them. I've never done it before but the scan was a should we keep baby or not so you can imagine quite emotional. ( known her 2 years but a really really lovely friend and they're going through a very difficult time with other stuff)
Don't know why its bothering me. Hubby knows friends hubby and says he's quite stand offish and serious so for him to be teary in public must have been the shear relief and you were offering support. Need some perspective DH says I'm being silly but needed to know from other mum's out there. Was I being over familiar.

Oh god its just one long ramble so so sorry

No!

Breathe in, breathe out. Everything is fine.

thank u

Not at all

er NO! Sounds like you were reacting in a right and proper way to the situation. But if it really bothers you that much wait until you next see them and just briefly say "sorry if I was over familiar but wasn't that great news?!" I wouldn't make a big deal out of it if I were you.

You were fine. Don't worry about it.

Lord NO! Glad everythings ok!

You were not being over familiar or inappropriate in any way. They were probably overjoyed, relieved and happy to have your support.

I wouldn't say so. Why is it worrying you anyway?

Are you worried about your friends reaction? That she might think you fancy him? Or worried that he might think that?

Seems a perfectly natural affectionate gesture to friends that have had good news.

I'm not a hugger, but I think that was a lovely thing to do! I did hug someone recently, who was in a 'situation' lets call it! He is one of DH's friends and it was a heart felt, 'I feel for you' kinda thing.

Stop worrying. It just shows that you really do care about all of them, not just the pg friend!

You were most definitely NOT being unreasonable. It sounds exactly the right situation for a hug.
Breathe, you did a nice thing.

YWNBU. Would think it odd if you didn't acknowledge the friend's husband with a hug or similar in the circumstances you describe. Relax!

There is zero cringe factor here (believe me I'm the queen of criiiiinge!)

No. You were fine, don't worry :)

No!! Would have been weird if you had hugged her and dc and not him wouldn't it.

Thank you guys just upbringing and being seen to do the right thing as a woman and respect etc but it was just lovely news and were all smiling I did not even think about it until i was telling dh about the great news half an hour ago and suddenly thought oh god but no feel so so much better thanks lovely mumsnetters out there

You are worrying over nothing!

Unless you have the Bubonic plague or something.

I am not a hugged but I would have done wha you did in that situation. Its perfectly natural.
YANBU

It is fine. Sounds like you are all close as to couples, that's lovely - things like this don't come up very often so handling it is always a new thing for everyone involved. They probably didn't think twice about it.

The one arm, pat on the back hug is strictly 'friends only' anyway so you've no reason to worry.

You did a nice thing on instinct and you don't need to worry.

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No! I bet they were really pleased that you were so happy for them.

I think it was a lovely way to greet them all, it shows you are genuinely pleased for them.