When you say you will be taking a step back ...

[Bokkanikkaglory]

.... from a social circle (one that you have been forcefully actively been trying to coerce so that you are seen as queen bee very social, rather than let friendships grow organically, citing another friends DD's behaviour towards your own DS as the reason, and then secretly still still being socially active including with "problem child"'s parents but excluding the person you vocalised your standing back to (and her Dd)

Did you post too soon perhaps? You have the 'if' but not the 'but' or 'maybe'

Lol - sorry - hit the wrong button

It must be exhausting being you.

Give me a min to regain my thread

So you told friend A. you were distancing yourself from the whole circle but in fact you were just distancing yourself from the friend you told not to the others in the circle??

Basically - don't make such a big statement and then purely exclude the person you voiced it to whilst still socialising with everyone else including the "problem" child and parents you cited as the reason - and then be pissed off when that person has taken you at your word when she realises you have a different agenda

Under over - no I didn't tell friend - friend told ME

Oh dear - not having a coherent morning am I?

Even having read all of it now, it's still difficult to understand.

Could you try a different way of explaining it?

Like maybe "Friend A said to friend B"?

Lol - sorry - need to take more water with it!

Will repost later.

I think I get part of it now - a friend of yours has said 'i'm going to drop that lot because their kids are a pain' but then she hasn't dropped them at all but has excluded you....

then I lose it a bit after that

Ok two peoples,children have a problem with each other.

One parent said to you they were stepping back from the group because of it, then continues to meet with the group but is excluding you?

Have I got it?