my parents are young, have 3 children, and 3 grandchildren( all my kids).
my parents have a thing about only spending time with 1 of my kids at a time, which is fine, they dont have to have them all, BUT they have been telling my youngest for coming up 2 bloody years that they will have him to stay at their house over night on his own. they keep saying to my oldest, infront of the youngest, ''oh do you want to come and stay in the next school holidays?'' que my youngest saying, ''whens it my turn nanny?'' and my mum saying, ''oh your too young still, in the next holidays''.
this has been her token responce for nearly 2 years.
i then took to saying no to any of these invites for my eldest to stay over, as each time i was left with the youngest thinking that next time would be his turn.
so this holidays they say the youngest can go, so they want to pick him up thursday,( last week) on thursday morning call to say they cant get him that day, will have to be friday.
so they get him friday at about 3. when they came he was a bit nervous, so i said i didnt think he would stay the night, from my parents i get, ''we have done this before you know, we raised 3 kids'' fine, off they go, at 8.30 i get a call, he wants to come home. so back he comes.
my mum then starts to give me hassle that he is too clingy, too babyfied.
and i feel that it is necessary to point out that cause of their flakey attitude none of us have been in their house since christmas and that he was just just out of his comfort zone and that by cancelling and building it up again they had over done it for him.
i do on fb this morning and there is a snidey message on there from my mum about how she just doenst get any time with her grand kids.
and i am fuming.
they never see us.
we saw them on boxing day, on the valentines weekend, and this weekend.
they never ask to see us, never come over, never invite us over, never call, never look after our kids, we invote them over and get told they will get back to us.. and never do.
fine, they dont want to be overly involved grandparents but dont bloody blame me. i try. but get turned down and im sorry but my kids are not there to provide them with something to do when they are bored!
yes, there is plenty of examples of how they just cant be arsed, but AIBU to think that if they want to see the kids it would be helpful for them to actually try to see the kids instead of not freaking bothering?