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Original poster

To think that 10.30pm is too late...

26 replies

startwig1982 · 10/04/2012 22:37

....to phone for a chat? Especially is you know that the person you are calling has young dc and is more than likely to be in bed.
Is it just me who thinks this is rude?

OP posts:
mamalovesmojitos · 10/04/2012 22:39

YANBU after 9.30pm is pushing it and after 10pm phonecalls are not acceptable IMO. Lots of people are asleep at that time.

AgentZigzag · 10/04/2012 22:39

Not everyone who has young DC go to bed early! Grin

Who was it? Someone who knows you well? (or not as the case may be)

raffle · 10/04/2012 22:39

Nope, I have a young DS and all my friends know that I'm a night owl. They would only ring my mobile tho as house phone is mega loud.

Depends if your friends are familiar with your lifestyle?

curiositykitten · 10/04/2012 22:39

Depends, really, on the person.

I would phone my best friend at 10.30 as I know she'll still be up, but I wouldn't phone my grandparents.

GreatBallsOfFluff · 10/04/2012 22:40

YADNBU I'd tell them to sod off

AlbertoFrog · 10/04/2012 22:41

Only phone before 7 am and after 10 pm in emergencies.

Ain't that the rule?

YANBU

Marilyn1980 · 10/04/2012 22:41

My sister regularly calls late, in fact I'm expecting a call from her tonight. As long as she phones before 11pm that's fine.

FunnysInLaJardin · 10/04/2012 22:42

YANBU. It is too late and would make me think there was something wrong

pictish · 10/04/2012 22:42

Depends who it is.
Can't think any of my friends would ring at that time without a specific reason though.

Original poster
startwig1982 · 10/04/2012 22:43

My sister phoned and when asked what she wanted she said nothing! Hmm
Although to be fair I did ask her if she knew it was 10.30pm Blush

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AgentZigzag · 10/04/2012 22:43

Would you answer the phone to tell them to sod off GreatBalls? Grin

CovertTwinkle · 10/04/2012 22:44

Alberto I have also learnt somewhere along the way that there is a magical rule of "emergency" calls between 10pm and 7am! I have no idea where I have got this idea from though Grin

YANBU

ledkr · 10/04/2012 22:52

I dont answer the house phone after about 9 im too tired nd its the only time i get to watch crap tv myself.
Pil ring at 11pm sometimes but we normally ignore it.I answered it once in a flustered manner and said I had thought it was bad news as so late.It didnt stop them Hmm

My Nan has dementia though and rang the other day to dicuss hedgehogs at 4.30 am she wbvvu but she cant help it Grin

DialsMavis · 10/04/2012 22:52

I would ring friends at that time of night, but not ones with newborn babies or very early starts.

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seeker · 10/04/2012 22:58

I would always text first- and so would my friends.

Angelico · 10/04/2012 22:59

I used to love late night calls but now I hate talking to anyone on phone after about 9pm Confused

lololizzy · 10/04/2012 23:01

no, friends often ring at 11 or so for long chat and vice versa..as often not free till then (or, even home) So really depends on the person, and their circumstances. I don't really start unwinding and stop doing chores etc till gone 11 so that's the perfect time..

CrystalMaize · 10/04/2012 23:04

Depends on you, the person ringing and the relationship between you.

raffle · 10/04/2012 23:16

Nope, I have a young DS and all my friends know that I'm a night owl. They would only ring my mobile tho as house phone is mega loud.

Depends if your friends are familiar with your lifestyle?

ToxicToria · 10/04/2012 23:23

Of its just a chat then Yes 10 is the cut off point for me even if they don't have young DCs. A colleague of DPs regularly phones at 11 or 11.30 which really pisses me off I think it's just rude. Angry

gobbledegook1 · 10/04/2012 23:35

That wouldn't be too late for me.

It depends on your circumstances I suppose and how well you know the routines of the person your calling.

One of my friends doesn't usually get home from work until between 7 & 8pm she then see's to her dogs (lets them out, feeds them etc), she then makes and has her own tea and tidies up before finally getting to just sit and chill at around 9.30pm. She doesn't go to bed until around 1am as her husband works nights and doesn't get up until midnight so she stay's up a) until he's awake so she doesn't disturb him and b) so she can make him a brew and see him off so I find the best time to call her for a natter is between 10.30 & 11pm so in her case no it isn't too late and is not unreasonable. Likewise she know's the best time to ring me is after 9pm when I can talk without kids interrupting and my crappy soaps are over but before 11.30pm as I'm normally in bed by then.

Another friend on the other hand gets up about 5am to sort all her animals before heading out to work at 6.30am she doesn't get chance to sit down and chat until after 8pm at night but also goes to bed by 10.30 as she has an early start and a long day so I know the best time to catch her is around 9pm and wouldn't dream of calling her at 10.30pm as I know she won't be up and IWBU.

Other friends who's routines I don't know so well I probably wouldn't call after 7pm unless I had messaged them in advance asking what time would be best to call (unless it was an emergency of course).

festi · 10/04/2012 23:43

not too late in my house, between 9 and 11 is probably the time i would call anyone or recieve a call just for a chat. far more convenient when kids are in bed and definatly settled. I hate people who call anytime befor 9pm as im always busy up untill then.

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 10/04/2012 23:55

The only person who calls me after 10pm is a mother of young children. Grin

OhdearNigel · 10/04/2012 23:58

I definitely wouldn't be in bed at 10:30 and I have a young child ! If anyone phoned at that time though I would be expecting something shocking to have happened, not just an unexpected social call.

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