AIBU to lose patience with this friend?

[SimplySoo]

A friend of mine emailed me and a mutual friend (who I'm much more fond of!) to find a date we can all meet up. we've narrowed it down to a day, so I suggested a reasonable-priced place as an idea (£7-£12 main course, central London). She replies today saying she's low on money this month, and saving for a weekend away with her new boyfriend,so she'll only go somewhere with a 2-4-1 voucher or somewhere "cheap and cheerful". bear in mind for 3 of us, a 241 voucher only offers a minimal discount, and she's earning 30k with no dependents - she's low on money owing to socialising.

AIBU to think if she can't afford it, why bother pushing and pushing to arrange it?! Isn't it a bit rude to arrange lunch but then implicitly say she doesn't consider us worth spending money on?

Who wants the 241, the friend who emailed you both originally, or the other friend?

YANBU. £7 - £12 for a meal is hardly expensive.

The friend who emailed originally. All refers to her.

Exactly everlong. If she'd left it at 'low on money" I might have been considerate, but to explain that by saying she's planning a weekend abroad...! Grrr

2 for 1 so she wants the free meal! Er, no.

@ slimy!

I don't think it is a crime that she wants to go away for a shagfest with her new man. Where she has been wrong is to push for a meet up and then try and get a free meal out of it.

Don't object to 241 in principle, but for three of you that's awkward, unless you divide total bill in 3, iuswim. If she wants to meet, she should be a bit less picky. YANBU

Haha, love your reply, Antlers. You're right - I was wondering if she's angling for an M&S sarnie.

maybe you should suggest she finds a restaurant for her purse - or a happy meal at McD's

I wouldn't be annoyed by this if she said 'I'm a bit short of money and have found a good deal at x place, do you mind if we go there instead?' I mean, the point of her wanting to have lunch with you was to get together with you, not to go out for lunch. I think it's more that she seems to expect you to do the work of suggesting places that may be acceptable for her.

Unless you think she really wants to do 2 for 1 where you and your friend pay for your meals and hers is free. That would be outrageous and you should just go without her.

Blimey I'm not flush but she's being a bit tight!

Personally I wouldn't even bother going and would just let the other one go and they can enjoy their 241 in harmony Although where on earth you can find any cheaper than £7 is baffling? And I'm in the NE.

YABU, I only go out when I can use a voucher. Everyone has their financial priorities. Why not book a fab deal on toptable.com?