to be fed up of being the only one to wake up.

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happyfeet11 · 10/04/2012 15:25

I am pregnant and not sleeping well anyway. On Sunday night dd2 vomited in the night. I was the one who woke up and dealt with poorly child and all the mess. I was than at home with dc whilst dh went off to football for 6 hours.
Last night dd1 was ill. This was even worse as she got it all over her matress and she has a high sleeper. I was hoping dh might wake up and offer to help. He must have heard me struggling as I knocked things off shelf wrestling with matress to remove soiled cover. Also had to bath dd as she was covered in vomit. Sorry tmi.
I am wondering whether I should have woken him. I was reluctant too as he had to leave early for work.

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manicbmc · 10/04/2012 15:27

I would have woken him. Work or no work, they are his kids too. If he has the time for 6 hours of football (doesn't a match last 90 minutes for a start?) then he should be able to manage to at least help if the kids are ill - especially when you are pregnant.

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happyfeet11 · 10/04/2012 15:28

Incidently this isn't the 1st time. I think dh has only once heard one of the dd's when they were sick. Or maybe he hears but ignores as he knows I will wake anyway. Incidently think generally it fair enough for me to deal with it when he has work next day but would appreciate more help at the weekend.

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happyfeet11 · 10/04/2012 15:29

He is away for 6 hours due to commute. Although I think he probably could leave a little later and still make it. Thanks.

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OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 10/04/2012 15:30

Of course you should have woken him! If he didn't hear than how can you expect him to help you? Or he may have heard but not realised you needed help.

You have to wake him up next time, otherwise you will just build up resentment over it and he will be powerless to do anything about it.

clam · 10/04/2012 15:30

A sharp kick in the shins might help him to wake up next time.

manicbmc · 10/04/2012 15:30

But you work. You work at bringing up your children. I don't reckon half an hour of missed sleep to help clean up a vomiting child is too much to ask.

nickelhasababy · 10/04/2012 15:30

you should have woken him.

Pseudo341 · 10/04/2012 15:32

YABU, my DH can sleep through anything so if I need back up I wake him, and you should do the same, even on a work night if necessary. I also think generally I'm the first line of defense on a work night, but if it gets really bad then he has to help.

NagooBunnytail · 10/04/2012 15:33

I wake DH and he usually deals with the sick while I clean the child. Then everyone gets back to bed quicker and the DC are less distressed.

Ephiny · 10/04/2012 15:34

I think you're wasting your time 'hoping' that he's going to offer to help. You need to talk about how these responsibilities are going to be shared, and work out a fair arrangement. And if you really need help, wake him up and ask for it.

I expect he did wake up but decided not to bother doing anything!

thebody · 10/04/2012 16:54

If he was up early for work then it's fair enough for u to deal with night situations if they are few and far between.

6 hours at footi is unreasonable unless it's unusual IMO.

Poor you think u must be knackered, hope dh doesn't catch the sickness bug or he keep you up moaning at night as well.

cadburyseggsarebest · 10/04/2012 16:56

Yes you should have woken him. Totally not on that you do this on your own. It takes both of us doing our bit in this house, especially when somebody is sick. One of us is usually tending to the puker and the other is going downstairs with the dirty sheets, cleaning floor etc. I've never had to explain any of this or ask dh to do this, that's how it is. Your dh should be seeing it too

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