to think this is beyond wrong and wonder if there is anything I can actually do about it. probably none of my buisness, but morally I just cant understand it..

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A child living in my area has recently passed away.I do not know child or family but I do know other people who do. It has been all over the local press and featured on national news. The parents have only recently been named, but no pics etc have appeared in press.

I noticed on FB that someone who knows the child has today uploaded pics of her. The parents are not on FB and I have been told this woman has not even spoken to the paernets they are not close friends but children went to same school. I cant help feeling I would devestaded if I where the childs parents and discovered someone had done this. I hit report but didnt actually know what catagory I would report this under. Im just disgusted people feel the need to somehow begome inviolved in the very private lives of others and display it with out the right to do so.

I'm guessing you can report content to facebook admins?

I agree with you. It is in very bad taste. Go ahead and report or send this person a message with your concerns. then try to forget about it because unfortunately I think this will become a common feature of our lives.

I am not sure you can actually do anything about it , the person concerned might consider it a tribute to the child concerned ..... and depending on the age of the child it might their child is a fellow teen who is inot FB.

UNless you know whats transpired the only option you might have if you feel strongly is to message the person who has posted and gently ask if they have considered parent might not want childs pics there. as a parent / granparent I wouldnt.

You could message the poster in a non-aggressive way.

The family of the child may not object. My DD has ahd quite a few friends die, in different circumstances and their family have been ok with the other teens doing what they had to ie making a FB page etc.

Tbh, usually another teen in the family has already done that. Fb is apart of teen life and becomes part of the grieving process.

If you don't even know the family concerned. how can you possibly know the FBer hasn't got their permission

I find it a bit hard to get worked up over things like this, unless of course you are certain that the family have specifically said that they do not want their daughter's photo to be made public; of course if they have, then it would be polite to respect their wishes.

But the idea, in general, that we all 'own' our own images, or those of our children, and should be able to decide who sees them is a very modern one, I think. I can't turn the TV on this week without seeing photos of people, including babies, who died on Titanic, and I can't help thinking that no one in the past hundred years has been all that concerned about those families privacy.

How do you know the bereaved parents would mind?

You don't know them, even slightly. Stay out of it.

I would mind if I was the parent. They ought at least to know.

I agree with you.
I don't know what you can do other than sharing your concerns with the person who has done it (I'm not on FB so don't know about the reporting it bit).
I don't want other people putting photos of me or my dcs all over the internet - at any time, let alone at a time like this. If I did, I would be on FB wouldn't I ? Perhaps that is something you could point out to the person who thinks it is OK to do this ?

YANBU

I think it is disgusting, too. I think, possibly, the only only defense is that they didn't fully realise that it wasn't their place to do this.

PIL told me yesterday that they were at a National Trust property recently and the air ambulance had to be summoned for someone - apparently lots of people were recording the person being loaded onto it on their mobiles. Appalling behavour IMO.

I certainly wouldn't go telling the bereaved parents about this though. They may or may not know already, they may or may not be concerned about this. I would definitely stay out of it.

A young man at my ds school died and the whole school was hit by a terrible grief. Young people who hardly knew him were sobbing and very very upset. A friend of mine whos dd died talked to me about how people wouldn't mention her dd name and that made her sad. The family kept her fb page open and people left messages all the time, uploaded pics and it was a source of great comfort to the family.

You do not know this woman, she may well feel this is the right thing to do as a way of keeping this child's memory alive. She may have put a lovely message on the photos that have prompted other people to think of her. This such a terrible thing but we all cope differently and you can't know what is helping the family now.

As you do not know anyone involved or their motives I think you are jumping to conclusions.

I do know the person who has uploaded the pics. Im sure their intentions are to pay tribute and I also belive to get some attention or involvment in what has happened to a certain extent and I also know they dont have the parents permission to post the pics. It is a very ill judged thing for them to have done, that may have possible repocussions for those who are involved. I have messaged them but they did not respond.

It is not a teenager it is a very very young child.