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...to be getting frustrated, angry and a little worried

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 15:47

...I had a phone call from the Head of an overseas school yesterday to try and set up a phone interview. This was accompanied with an email.

I replied and at 4am this morning (it woke me, I had the phone turned up loud just in case) I got a reply back telling me that he will be in touch ASAP but I should be aware of the time difference (they are ahead).

I didn't sleep much after that. I added him on Skype and left Skype active on the phone and laptop.

All day I've been jumpy and diving on the phone and 2hrs ago he added me on Skype as a contact. Since then I've moved into another room, got my job application, letter, the advert and my interview questions all spread out around me and I'm shaking like a leaf.

It is coming up to 12 hours since he told me he'd be in touch as soon as possible and it is early evening there.

He is online on Skype but his message was clear about the fact that HE would be in touch with ME.

AIBU to be so jumpy, sacred, frustrated and angry now?

ARRRGGGGHHH!!! Angry :( Confused

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LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 09/04/2012 15:52

No nbu but you do sound an obsessive type of person. Are you spending too much time on the laptop by any chance?

ImperialBlether · 09/04/2012 15:55

Why are you jumping around like this? It sounds very odd. He's probably doing a lot of interviews today and your name's towards the bottom of the list. Do not interrupt him on Skype. If he's interviewing someone else he will be irritated with you.

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 15:55

Perhaps.

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:00

I'm jumping because it is a big deal and it is gone 7pm there now. I didn't get given a time, I care and want this, it will mean a huge deal to my family and because I've not been able to get anything else done because I've been waiting 12hrs for him to call. It also isn't the closing date for it for another 10 days so I'm... nervous.

If this sounds odd to you then I very much envy you. Interviews are a big deal to me and an interview that will mean upping sticks and going to another country is an even bigger deal. I really do envy you if you could stay calm awaiting that.

I wasn't planning on interrupting him on Skype for that very reason.

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LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 09/04/2012 16:00

You know, imperial I do seem to find myself agreeing with most things you write, regardless of topic.
Sorry OP, for going off topic.
Mind you, if you leapt to the pc to see what this list was about, my initial Dr Bollocks diagnosis may well be right...

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:01

I think I'm missing something here.

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SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 09/04/2012 16:04

I don't think you're being odd. Interviews are a big deal and waiting round to be contacted would get anyone on edge. Plus you can hardly go and get on with anything else, can you?
Don't skype him though, you just have to sit it out.

puds11 · 09/04/2012 16:04

I can understand your frustration completely. You are obviously investing a lot in this interview, but need to remember that he will have other things to do/people to interview, and may have had some kind of emergancy/more pressing matter.
Have a cuppa and try to relax a bit. If he said he would be in touch im sure he will. Maybe asap to him isnt what asap to you is (if you get what i mean)

DialsMavis · 09/04/2012 16:04

Did he say it would definitely be today?

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:07

No. You're quite right Puds and that has the rational side of my thinking all day and Mavis no he didn't. He didn't give any day just as soon as possible.

If it is term time he could have had a full school day. I know what it is like for Heads and I empathise I just... well can't do anything until he calls.

Thank you Sue. That was my thinking exactly.

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LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 09/04/2012 16:08

Meh, for list read post.... HTC typo.
Am also a teacher. 10 days left? Try not to worry, if he can't contact you with a firm time he's not yet that bothered. Wait to hear whether you're shortlisted before getting het up. And don't forget, an informal chat us Luke popping in to see the school before closure date. You have NO IDEA if the cockups you could inadvertently make.
Good luck. Where abroad?

vegetariandumpling · 09/04/2012 16:13

OP I don't blame you at all I would feel exactly the same way. but saying 'as soon as possible' sort of implies that it won't be today no? Unless those weren't his exact words.

Well, for next time, remember to suggest a time to avoid this situation. Oh and good luck Grin

SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 09/04/2012 16:14

waiting A round obv.

Use the time to do some research on the school?

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:14

Middle East.

10 days though could mean that they have a strong enough field and are closing it early. That has happened to me before in a positive and negative way (I was told after a visit to a school once that the deadline had changed to whenever I got my application in. I've also had it where I got an application in 5 days before the deadline to be told that they had appointed that day because they stopped taking applications early due to a strong enough field).

The voicemail was very positive but I can't help getting het up I'm afraid.

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ripsishere · 09/04/2012 16:17

Bear in mind that in the ME, Sunday is a working day. Thursday and Friday are 'weekend' equivalent.

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:17

I have researched it Sue and I have its website open along with various Ex-pat sites. I've also taken time to talk to my cousin who works down the road from it but good suggestion.

Thank you Vegetarian I did that with a Chinese school in the middle of last week and gave them blocks of time that would suit their timezone perfectly (and still gave me the days free with the kids (middle of the night for them)) but I haven't heard back from them at all.

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:19

Rip that is why I wasn't surprised to get the voicemail and email on a Sunday but I did get back to him by return of email then too.

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SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 09/04/2012 16:21

Then I guess you just have to accept it's a bigger deal for you than for them and wait it out. Good luck Smile. They'll be in touch

LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 09/04/2012 16:22

I had a fabulously positive chat once with a HT re. a DH position and didn't even get shortlisted! I feel your pain but actually, I'd set Skype to away, if you can...? And start again tomorrow. If it is meant to be....
(easy for me to say...)
Gosh, it'd not be a 'dry' country, would it?

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 16:29

Lost it is not entirely dry but you need a license to buy alcohol. A license I would not require as a non drinker. I'm going to wait until he goes offline on Skype and then shut it down until I go to bed and then switch it all on again in case I get the call early in the morning.

I had something similar before and got a whispered apology on the way out from the DH that my line manager to be had the final say and that the whole of SLT wanted me which I thought was very bizarre. It did lead to a crafty phone call from them and me getting an interview at another school even though I'd missed the deadline for that job.

Sue You are right.

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MNHubbie · 09/04/2012 17:17

OK Skype text message arrived. All cool. Phone call Fri/Sat.

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