AIBU to not want to go to sibling's milestone birthday celebrations tomorrow?

[Horsemad]

I. Just. Don't. Want. To. Go.

Sibling has arranged a weekend away for their birthday and I'm expected there tomorrow :(

I can't drum up any enthusiasm for it and I know I'm being a total miserable cow, but should have said 'No' when the idea was suggested.

I need to be more assertive at family events - have no problem being assertive at work!

Well as you obviously said yes, I suppose you should go.

Having said that, referring to your brother or sister as 'sibling' kind of leads me to believe you don't like them much.

So it begs the question, why you agreed to go?

Why don't you want to go?

I put sibling so as not to give any info in case they ever read this!

I get on well with them, but we are not an overly close family. I have to make a journey of a couple of hundred miles to be there, which I just can't be faffed with.

You're looking a bit peaky to me OP.

Coming down with something?

Lol Agent! I can actually stress myself so much with these things, that I COULD make myself ill!! :)

If you can't be faffed with it you shouldn't have agreed to go.

Just ring them and tell them you're very sorry for letting them down (because you are letting them down!) and don't agree to do stuff you clearly don't want to do in the future.

How much hassle will you face if you don't go? Is it likely to be worse than the hassle of not actually going? Will you end up thinking..."Wish I'd bloody gone now" when you get yet another hurt/sarky comment?

If not then, as ZigZag says, you could suddenly get a particularly nasty, catchable strain of skiveilitis. As my DS will tell you, that can be very debilitating indeed

You are right Worra, I will go, but it will be a right pain. Just wish I could be strong enough to say no when asked; I ALWAYS do this and then hate attending the flippin' events.

Oh crap....sorry.

Second sentence should read...."Is it likely to be worse than the hassle of actually going".

Tired.

Crocko, I'll get grief if I don't go, had the option of saying no at the outset, but thought I'd be able to get on with it and enjoy the day so said 'yes, how lovely....'!!!!!!!!!!

Well if you regret not saying no, then do as zigzag says and become ill.

Learn from it though if you can cos it's not nice letting people down if they're expecting you.

Is it unusual for you to be getting so stressed out with something you're going to?

Do you say yes because you want to be sociable/be seen to be sociable, but in reality you'd rather do anything but?

Thanks Worra, I totally agree, gotta get my head round this as it happens every time there's a family party.

Agent, that's it exactly, I want to be seen a sociable, but in reality, I hate hate hate socialising!!

It's alright to just be yourself, people will accept it

Agent, that's it then, I will lock myself away and never see anyone again!!! Could be a hermit, me. Off to bed now as have to get up at unreasonable hour to make The Journey!

Well, I went and had a brilliant time!!! Was amazing and I'm glad I made the effort :)