to think that Facebook is an extrovert's game?

[AwkwardMaryHadAnEasterLamb]

You know...all that competative posting and showing off stuff?Another thread got me thinking....all of the extroverts that I know are prolific "sharers" of their stuff...dinners, nails, kids, new clothing...what say you?

It is homebaked. This week's cake will be a Victoria Sponge.

I bake for ds, who is in residential. Visit on a Saturday and so I take him cake. The fb taunting is just for fun.

I agree with you Awkward. I just don't get FB or Twitter for that matter. I don't understand why people need to keep up a running commentary on life It must be so time consuming.

Like people who go on holiday and then spend the whole holiday looking at it through a video camera but on a grand scale. Instead of living it they're narrating it.

I'm funnier and nicer on Facebook than in real life, so I loves it!

lottie, that was the most honest thing I've ever seen written about FB Well done.

I agree, Ariel. I have never written anything nasty on Facebook, my friends on there are real friends and I value them too much. I have also shared my precious banana cake recipe...

I think it was me who started the other thread

Some posts are quite personal, had someone going on about how SS had visited her as her exDP had accused of her of neglect, she then went on to say he had a drink and drug problem, had given their DS alcohol, named him had a right old go I thought this was a bit

It's interesting though, there are some real obvious, 'poor me', people on FB
status updates, including cryptic things like 'I give up'/ 'At least I know who I can trust'/'why do I bother?' I just feel like replying 'if you weren't so negative life would be much brighter for you', but I just politely ignore whilst other people say 'aww babe sending hugz' hence, perpetuating such sulky behaviour.

Some people make themselves feel better about their atrocious diets or habits by putting them on their status updates i.e 'ah just me, duvet and a bottle of wine-bliss' I read this and think- 'Woah there!- it's 7pm, you're only 22 years old and you're drinking an entire bottle of wine to your self under your duvet on a Friday night
Come Monday Morning there appears a 'I am so depressed' update, I read this and just think, 'can't you see the correlation between sitting alone on the weekend, drinking wine and making/scoffing cup cakes and how you feel there after?

This is a common pattern, it's almost a way of normalising negative habits.

I don't want to sound smug but I don't have any friends like that, so don't have to read any "aww babe sending you hugzzz" type updates!

on the plus side I am friends with Jonty Bloom from Radio 4 on FB!

I only do happy statuses. I see no reason to spread my rare bad moods around the internet.

I do have a couple on fb who do the 'poor me' but it's not often.

Must admit, I am getting slightly irritated by constant photo's of peoples latest craft projects, followed by lots of sycophantic, sucking up comments about said peoples total fabulousness.

Surely no-ones life can be a total round of craft projects and idyllic days out with angelic children. Surely they fight and tantrum at some point.

If you don't like FB, don't use FB. It isn't actually madatory.

If you don't get FB see above, but know I consider you a luddite and probably afraid of e-mail, which you think might be able to see you when you have a bath.

If you use FB and do those c&p status updates, don't sully my wall with them or you will find yourself down a "friend" faster that you can re-post someone elses crappy dirge about how people with cancer only want one thing or how shit depression is.

I have a lot of admiration for people who put honest statuses up. I think the reason I only put happy statuses up is because of the way I'd like to be perceived by others, as a happy, positive person with a happy life which is true, but sometimes I'm a crabby sour faced bitch with a shit attitude

Do we have to have a daily fb bashing thread?

If you don't like it, don't use it.

I actually feel like starting an "I bloody love FB - it's brilliant" thread.

yabu. I prefer my own company (and don't get to chat much as I'm a LP) but it's nice to keep in touch with other people.

Why are people so black and white, stating the obvious, 'if you don't like it don't use it'? That is exactly like saying, 'if you don't like people don't see them', just because one person may be irritating on once occasion, or 'if you don't like weddings don't go to them', everyone extracts good and bad from their experiences.

I would never stop using FB as a vehicle for keeping in touch with people, just because of the odd passive-aggressive status update from people on the periphery of my social circle.

These threads are here to discuss the interesting nuances of ever evolving social media.

Throwing the baby out with the bath water isn't the answer.

I will use my fb page however I like.

Thanks Blap I didn't start this thread to boringly bash FB...I wanted to begin more of a debate as to its nature.

i think fb makes you look at people differently. I have distant family that live 300 miles away and we keep in touch via fb, and in rl they are lovely generous, caring, sweet and fun to be with

on fb they seem greedy grabbers (one had posted that the easter bunny had been with 32 eggs and it wasnt even 9 o'clock!)

i was [bushock] and they have posted recently that made me do the cats bum mouth on more than one occasion, but i know they are not like that in rl

"I don't want to sound smug but I don't have any friends like that, so don't have to read any "aww babe sending you hugzzz" type updates!"

The very reason I don't have a FB account [bugrin].

lottielou i think we were seperated at birth!

YABU, I think.

Maybe we have different versions of what "extrovert" means.

To me it's about how much time you want to spend in the company of others. Extroverts would like to spend a greater proportion of their waking hours with other people around them, introverts have a greater need for alone time.

Facebook can be very useful if you are an introvert - if your "correct amount" of spending time with other people is low. It allows you to do "sociable" things like sharing pictures and exchanging information and organising events without actually having to have too much direct interaction with people.

For example, if I wanted to tell people "I will be in X place at X time", an extrovert might phone up lots of people and enjoy having lots of conversations. An introvert might just want to let them know without having to have a conversation with every person they informed, and Facebook could be very useful for doing that.

I agree BusinessTrills. I'm an introvert and love Facebook for exactly those reasons you described!

YANBU but you are BU to come off as so snotty about what other people post. Everything posted oinline is for some kind of attention or praise. Your post here is no different.