to not be bothered about my 30th Birthday?

[DPrince]

Hi
I turn 30 this month. Everyone else(family, friends, work friends)) is excited and wanting me toplan something. The weekend beforeI was going out with a few friends anyway and just want a fairly quiet day. I am not upset I am turning 30,I just don't get why its a big deal. DD (almost 8) is excited (not sure why) so I am pretending to her that I am just as excited. I feel like a miserable sod (and ungratfeful) when everyone is trying to plan a weeks worth of events to celebrate and I am just not bothered. Should I just grit my teeth and go along with it all? I am having the tea party dd wanted as she was so excited I couldn't say no. AIBU to want a quiet birthday.

YANBU, I was pg for mine and pointedly told dh there was no way I wanted a party as: A) I don't like the idea of people I know having to come out and drink together when they see me most days so I'm no special reason to do that, and B) No way would I be the only sober person when it was myt b'day.

My request was a 'nice tea' cooked by dh, and a back rub

Rather sad, isn't it?

But dh did push the boat out by making some t-shirt transfers at work and night before my b'dat frantically ironing them on his and dc t-shirts, they were a shadow of my fac with 'Happy birthday Mummy / Wifey' typed over the shadow, and dh and dc wore them all day!

That did make me feel a bit spesh...

YANBU - since when did 30 become a 'big birthday' ?

YANBU

I haven't had a big celebration for any of my birthdays. It's not something I need or enjoy.

TBH i think alot of it is for my mum, more than anything else. She keeps saying 'its a big day when your youngest turns 30'. I don't get it. Glad I am not the only one who feels like this. I often feel like a 'party pooper' as dd says. DH thinks we should plan something 'big' for our 10th wedding anniversary later this year. Again I would rather go away for the weekend with the kids (somewhere niceand quiet), not have a party

yanbu i wanted mine to bugger off tbh... didnt do anything for mine except get ill in the end.

I didn't celebrate my 16/21/30 but I'm going to turn 40 and will milk it celebrate by spending lots of £ going on big holiday, buying lots of clothes, new car and new furniture. It will make me feel better :o

Why don't you suggest something nice with just your mum, then? Tea at the Ritz or something like that ...... Or just a family meal?

I had a party on my 30th and hardly anyone came :( It was a complete and utter washout and at the time I was gutted It was the first party I'd tried to had since I was a child, and I was talked into it by my then DH. I wish I'd never bothered, and have ignored my birthday resolutely ever since.

:( pombear

I couldn't have a party not got many friends :( :o

Me neither (not enough friends) and good thing I didn't cos dh got mad redundant on my 30th

You are not BU at all!

I am like you regarding birthdays, I don't tend to get excited at all - especially as mine is at the arse end of January, when everyone is miserable after Christmas, only the tattiest of tat is left in the stores and its a week before anyone has been paid!

For my 30th DH arranged to take me to New York for a long weekend. It was bliss. My parents and friends got really excited about it, but really they weren't involved at all, it was me and DH on our own having a holiday whilst mum and dad watched the kids for us. It was bliss! There was no big party, no stressful arrangements, no organising. Just me and DH doing our own thing in the Big Apple.

We are having a meal with my mum and family the sunday before, as its the only night we are all free.
So far the plans are saturday before a group of friends (including mum as she knows them and they range in age from 24-60) are going for dinner (not actually for my birthday it was the date we could all do). We are going to dhs restaurant so he will be there, but working. Sunday dinner at my parents with Mum dad, dbro, dsil, dh and kids. Sunday afterMum is baby sitting so me and dh can go out.
But, apparently, I should plan more and make a week of it. I have the week off but I am pretty sure work have something up their sleeve as people keep checking that I am working the friday before. I might call in sick. :)

oh and a nice tea (me,dh and kids) on the actual day.

for people who can fill a venue with 100+ people.
HOW ??! :o

Kitty - suspect they are extroverts who love a good party. Not introverts who love MN

gaf :o