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Daughters 2nd birthday and DP's family

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emjanedel · 07/04/2012 19:24

It is my daughters 2nd birthday on monday and my DP's family aren't interested. We live a ten minute car ride away. All parites drive but haven't been up in the last 12 months. AIBU to think that they should visit their granddaughter/neice on her birthday?

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Pandemoniaa · 07/04/2012 19:25

It's be nice to think they'd want to, yes. But if they've not been near you in 12 months, sadly I suspect they won't. Is there any particular reason for their disinterest?

LindyHemming · 07/04/2012 19:26

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emjanedel · 07/04/2012 19:26

would also like to say that she hasn't had any easter eggs either!

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ChristIsTrulyRisen · 07/04/2012 19:26

Is it because they don't like where you are buying the buffet food from?

[maybe]

AgentZigzag · 07/04/2012 19:26

Looks unlikely if they haven't bothered in a year Sad

You need to try and get your head round them and accept the way they are, or you'll spend all your time getting pissed off at something you can't change.

Pandemoniaa · 07/04/2012 19:28

That's not the greatest tragedy in the world, tbh! She's not yet 2 and the less chocolate she has the better since this is the last year you are likely to get away with it! Also, not every child is swamped with chocolate at Easter. It just seems like it!

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emjanedel · 07/04/2012 19:30

When we visit them (try to go every 6 weeks or so) we all get on well. But have the "her presents are here when you want them". Im having a tea party and have invited her cousins but haven't even had a reply.

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WorraLiberty · 07/04/2012 19:36

How come you only visit them every 6 weeks or so if they're a 10 min car ride away?

Some families just aren't that close and it sounds like that's the case with yours I'm afraid.

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emjanedel · 07/04/2012 20:46

My partner needs dragging there to be honest, so leave it a few weeks and then pusg that DD should see gp's etc. I suppose i should leave them to it.

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spidermanspiderman · 07/04/2012 23:11

I am used to this and recommend just cutting them out your life and then you don't have to be hurt by them any more. My dh family, grandparents included here, could not be bothered with either my ds first birthday or dd second birthday. Can't be bothered with them anymore and will not be doing them any more favours. They bother with all the other grand kids as had I up until now.

Luckily my own parents do over compensate for their lack of interest and spoil them rotten. Also my partners family aren't the best role models for dcs. I also have some fab friends that are more like family to dcs.

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emjanedel · 08/04/2012 22:17

spiderman you are me. There are 4 other children in the family and they bother with them, its just my duaghter they ignore. DP has said to day that he isnt going to bother any more just do stuff for the kids bdays etc. Its a shame. My family are also the same as yours. xxx

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LingDiLong · 08/04/2012 22:21

Could they be waiting for an invite? I tend to ring and tentatively ask when I can bring over a pressie for my niece and nephew, I don't like to invite myself over on their actual birthday unless my brother/sis have made plans.

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