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AIBU?

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To be so fed up of 'managing'

9 replies

Tutti · 07/04/2012 17:23

Or not!!!

Bit of back history-we had to live mid east just before xmas as dh had not been paying him for 3 months,rent,bills etc pretty much ate up our savings whilst we ttried to resolve etc.

got nowhere. except coming 'back home' with literally our clothes [we could not even afford to ship our stuff back home]

And now we are strugging big time.

We are both in work [now]

but not on great money,we claim waht we can etc.

but it's a F***g struggle.

All the time. We just get one thing sorted and something else crops up.

We have just been hit with a council tax bill for the last place we rented.because our crappy ex landlord said he would forego the tenancy , we even found him new tenants, but he has decided to sell so he decided against letting it again. but he has now contacted council and says he did not agree.

I will sort it and if they make us pay -they will get it slowly-but its another thing to find.

We had to move as we were on a small island and there was no work at all and so we moved to main one to be able to work and get off benefits.

I feel soo crap for ds -I don't think we will ever be able to get him the toys/stuff he would like.Sad he brought the bare minimum from mid east and we have gven him the odd fiver here and there. He is 6 ffs.

I am saving tesco clubcard and coop points so hopefully by birthday and xmas I will have a stash.

But AIBU to be so fed up of just managing. where is the fun????

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Tutti · 07/04/2012 17:24

leave and dh company not paid him. sorry.

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MrsKittyFane · 07/04/2012 17:36

It sounds like hard work for little gain and YANBU to feel downbeat. You sound like you are trying hard OP and there is little you can do but think of what you have got that's good :) YANBU to feel fed up.

MrsKittyFane · 07/04/2012 17:38

BTW, you are not depriving your DS just because you can't buy him 'stuff', don't ever think that.

MrsKittyFane · 07/04/2012 17:40

Also, your son will be learning about hard work and will appreciate what you give him more because of it :)

Tutti · 07/04/2012 17:43

I know we arenot depriving him really.

we do lots of other stuff for free, we have lots of walks, there ae lots of beaches etc.

But sometimes I just feel crap for saying no .Pretty much all the time.

He has never complained. he has never known us struggle. he is fine.

just me I know.

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TotemPole · 07/04/2012 18:53

Were you on benefits when at the old property and were you receiving council tax benefit?

And do you have a dated tenancy agreement for the new address.

I'd contact the old council and see where you stand on this.

griphook · 07/04/2012 18:56

crap isn't it, sometime you just get fed up with JUST getting by. you feel so bad for your children

Tutti · 07/04/2012 19:10

I am gonna get in touch with council-but they not open til tuesday and got letter from them last night.

Yep it is just feeling bad. He hopefully will not remember all this when he grown up-but reading some threads on here I doubt it Sad

Its just not how we thought our life would end up iyswim?

It will change-but sometimes I feel soo sad and darined especially when we finally seemed to be on the up[when we first went to mideast]

we have manged before and we will again. but sometimes its so so hard.

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joanna2012 · 07/04/2012 19:17

nearly everyone is struggling, even those in good jobs with pay freezes :(

it will pass, been there before

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