to consider Slimming World for all of us?

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DH is hugely overweight. He knows it, keeps saying he will do something about it, but never does. I'm a bit overweight, not hugely so, have lost a stone in the past year and I'm now a size 14. I'd sort of like to lose more but not really worried TBH. DD is 14 and in a size 12, but her school trousers are getting tight and I'm concerned her weight is just going up. Her diet is crap really, but she won't eat fruit or veg apart from a couple of things so I'm at a bit of a loss.

I was thinking that if we all join Slimming World it will be a kick up the backside for all of us, and hopefully they will be able to give DD some guidelines on better choices on what to eat. DH isn't keen, he thinks he'll be the only bloke there - and I don't think he wants 'strangers' to acknowledge that he IS overweight because then he won't be able to put of doing something about it. My mum is worried that DD will 'get a complex' and it's dangerous to put these ideas in teenagers heads because she might 'go the other way and get anorexic'. But that's why I'm thinking of doing it as a family, so nobody is singled out.

What do you all think? braces self for the AIBU crowd

Medications and MH issues yes of course they have bearing. But that isn't what this thread is about.

I'm sorry for pissing you off and for what you are going through but your weight gain isn't because of bad habits which for the majority that is the case so the two aren't comparable. For those who simply eat too much, the bottom line is eat until you are full. Good luck with your journey.

There are many reasons why people are overweight or can't keep it off. For me, food is my thing, I like a glass or wine several but know when to stop (well I have two glassess on a friday and on a saturday). I like wine but have enough willpower/understanding/whatever you call it to leave it at that and not drink every night or binge drink. I don't smoke. I excecise regularly and enjoy it. However, I can eat and be full but still eat anyway. When I have 'lost my control' with food or just because I know something will taste nice and I want some. Knowing that I have been a bit of a glutton but it's ok, it's just one day. I had a blowout and will feel good that I have treated myself rather than feel bad as that is what it is all about enjoying things and having foods that are not healthy as it is a treat and not how I eat everyday.

I know that this is wrong, SW works for me, I used to follow Atkins before I had children but for me after having them wanted my dc to see me eating a lot of fruit and veg. I want them to see me say 'I'm a bit peckish' and sit and eat an apple/pear etc rather than 3 biscuits. My dc love fruit. They also love biscuits but most of all they love doing what their mummy does so until they reach that age where they ignore me and eat what they like hopefully they will have a good understanding of healthy eating.

I think you and your DH should join, its a great diet (not really a diet in my opinion but a change of lifestyle with loads of healthy normal food).

I don't think you should get your DD to join but she will benefit from teh fact you are cooking healthier meals and don't have any other food in the house for her to eat.

She probably isn't 'fat' but at 14 a size 12 is a bit big and at the end of the day you are helping her for the future and teaching her how to eat healthily. Does she exercise at all?

I was made to diet by my dancing teacher at 8 years old (I wasn't over weight, just not skinny) and it has affected me for the whole of my life, its not nice at all! I am constantly worrying about what I eat, my BMI is between 19 & 21 at all times but I am never happy with my weight. I don't think teenage dieting is the right thing but maybe you should talk to SW about the kids programme and see what you thinl.

If you only buy healthy food she'll have to eat it! We only have healthy food in the house (unfortunately we also have a phone that likes to call Dominos now and then!). It doesn't have to be all veg and fruit, there are lots of things on the SW programme.

I have just seen what veg/fruit your DD eats. You have probably listed the worst ones she could possibly have which is such a shame. Bananas are good for you but full of sugar, I follow WW and sweetcorn is one of only 2 veg that isn't 'free' food.

If SW won't work for her, maybe look at WW, it works on controlling the portions more and you could roughly work out what she should be having each day and try to offer her that?

Have you asked her how she feels about it all?

All sweetcorn is free on the green plan, and whole baby sweetcorn is superfree (free on red, green and extra easy).

On SW of course not WW.

Egg - if you had got to target at sw you would know that it changes slightly when you get there. That's the point of sw, your not on a diet for life. People are thin for all sorts of reasons. If it was as simple as you have put it, everyone would be thin. While on paper its simple, its not so simple in practise. I have been at target for 3 months. I know quite a few women who have been at target for a good few years.
I do agree with pps, stuffing yourself is not the best way, but on SW you can.

The main thing I'd mention about her current diet is the fruit juice, she's getting all the natural sugar without the fibre you get from whole fruit.

dprince Me too, I know lots of people who have been at target for years, they still follow the SW plan but do it without really thinking about healthy extras and syns, it becomes part of your life.

If sweetcorn is 'free' on SW then that makes life easy, I know it would be better to have more variety of veg but as long as shes getting something.

I was going to mention the fruit juice thing too, not great really to have lots of fruit juice, same with dried fruit. ALso bad for you teeth, dentists often have a lot to say about it!!!!

There are loads of tips on the internet of how to get veg into meals without kids realising, ie fresh pasta/pizza sauce as the OP mentioned before. If you have a hand blender then she will never see the lumps.

OP, how about your daughter starting to learn to plan and cook family meals alongside you? She might be inclined to try new recipes with more veg and so on in them. This worked for my DS1, who was very fussy at one point.

EgginaBap, weight loss is not just about eating like thin people. It's a complicated and very personal formula that involves calorie intake, proportion of fat and sugar in the food ingested, leptin production (as well as the production of other hormones), insulin, exercise and genetics. If it was just a simple input/output model then nobody would be fat and there wouldn't be a multimillion pound diet industry. Nor would there have been any fat people during rationing in WW2.

One thing is for sure though, and this we know for definite - if you have a weight problem, eat as little sugar and processed/refined food as you can get away with and you'll find life easier, as your hormones will regulate themselves more effectively. I am sure every single doctor, diet guru and nutritionalist on the planet would agree with that.