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To think this was a weird thing to do?

58 replies

SpottedGurnard · 06/04/2012 20:32

Some good friends (a couple) invited me and dp out to the cinema. We havn't been out for ages as we have young dc. Had a babysitter booked but cancelled at the last minute!

Dp said he'd look after the children so I could go and have some adult conversation and I rang my friends to say I would be there in 15 mins. Our friends had turned up half an hour before the film was due to start so I asked them if they could get me a ticket so we could guarantee we'd all be together (the cinema allocates everyone a seat). I said I would pay them back when I got there.

They refused to briefly shell out the extra money for a ticket and went in to sit and wait for the film. When I arrived the film had sold out so I had to come home (feeling like an unwanted puppy).

AIBU to think they could have got a ticket? We have known them for a long time so it's not as if they can't trust me. They are far from hard up so it wasn't a money problem.

OP posts:
HumphreyCobbler · 06/04/2012 20:34

this is very strange behavior

WorraLiberty · 06/04/2012 20:34

That's weird? Confused

I wonder if it was because they wanted to go out as a foursome?

Very odd

pjmama · 06/04/2012 20:35

Miserable buggers!

SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 06/04/2012 20:36

Very weird. But I cannot imagine that conversation. You say 'I'd love to come, on my way. Will you get me a ticket? I'll pay you back when I get there'. They say - what? Just 'no'? Wow.

No chance at all they didn't have it?

HugeFurryWishingStool · 06/04/2012 20:36

That's rude, what did they say when you asked them to get your ticket?

JeanBodel · 06/04/2012 20:38

Maybe they have cashflow problems and actually couldn't afford your ticket? People can seem well off yet be broke on the day before payday.

mistressploppy · 06/04/2012 20:40

How very strange. There MUST be more to it. Can you think of anything at all?

Hassled · 06/04/2012 20:41

Was it the case that you were sufficiently late they assumed you weren't coming? It had sold out by the time you got there, so you must have been pretty late - maybe they waited till the last minute for you, thought "she's not going to make it" and nabbed the last couple of tickets?

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 06/04/2012 20:41

What?!? That is ridiculous and certainly not what friends do.

trikken · 06/04/2012 20:43

That is weird, if i were the friend that would have been the first thing Id ask, if u wanted me to get a ticket. They sound quite selfish.

Mrbojangles1 · 06/04/2012 20:46

Have you thought they might have enough money just o pay for themselves

Often my mate wants me to book things for her but I simply don't have the money even if I am getting the money straight back

KenDoddsDadsDog · 06/04/2012 20:47

Totally bizarre

SuePurblybiltFromChocolate · 06/04/2012 20:49

And, and, and - then what happened? They said no and you said...?
Then you came home, all dejected Sad - have you spoken to them since?

I am AGOG.

IAmBooyhoo · 06/04/2012 20:49

what did they say when you asked them to get your ticket?

undercoverPrincess · 06/04/2012 20:50

I reckon they were annoyed that it was a couples thing and you assumed it was okay to tag along as a single, I would possibly a bit miffed in fairness....

Also are you the girl that still owes me over £15 from a Bridget Jones cinema trip about ten years ago????

scuzy · 06/04/2012 20:50

very strange and rude! dont ignore it or it will bug the hell out of you. did they text looking for you? have you spoken since? i'd be majorly pissed off.

scuzy · 06/04/2012 20:51

why would you be miffed princess? i am assuming they are all friends. whats wrong with a single person taggin along with a couple to the cinema?

DontForgetTheLightAlesLawrence · 06/04/2012 20:51

Gosh, that really is odd.

Confused

Have you said anything to them?

undercoverPrincess · 06/04/2012 20:53

I might be if they didn't say OH can't make it now would you be okay with me still coming? They might feel like they have to babysit the other person a little bit? I don't think that's strange.

I would go to the cinema with a girl friend or with my husband but I wouldn't go with my husband and invite a girlfriend along....

windmillpond · 06/04/2012 20:53

undercoverprincess - sorry perhas I am misunderstanding you - yo base your friendships on whether people are in relationships or not? :o

So if, for example, my husband died, left me or I decided to leave him, I could no longer be your friend?

TidyDancer · 06/04/2012 20:54

Yes, v odd.

Are they usually like this?

IDontWantToBeFatAnymore · 06/04/2012 20:54

You need to ask if there was a problem with them getting you a ticket?

Have they called to see where you were?

SharonGless · 06/04/2012 20:58

YANBU
Strange behaviour- what was their explanation for not buying you a ticket? Unless they thought you might jib out too and leave them with the cost of an extra ticket?

SmethwickBelle · 06/04/2012 20:58

It does seem weird but people mostly have reasons, even if a bit rubbish. Maybe it was thoughtlessness not stingyness.

Maybe they'd already gone through the ticket checker and were up the escalator and/or in the snacks queue - so their "can't" was more about it not being particularly convenient than a huge snub. If it was a popular film the queue for tickets would possibly have been massive at that late stage.

If they'd been hanging about for ages they probably just wanted to get in to the seat and sit down and maybe didn't realise it would sell out.

I don't think you're being particularly unreasonable - I like to think I would have just bought the extra tickets when I got mine if my friend was running late!

Sorry to hear you missed out anyway, sounds majorly frustrating.

HalfPastWine · 06/04/2012 21:02

Are you sure they weren't just joking when they said 'no'. Some people have a strange sense of humour like that.

Have you spoken to them since and did they not contact you to find out why you didn't turn up?