to want to tell you about the wonderful evening I spent

[BuckBuckMcFate]

with my DS1?

This is a not very stealthy boast about him but I'm going to do it anyway.

DP has started to work away and we have 4 dc the youngest being 17months and of the non sleeping variety. So the past few months have seen big changes to all of our lives.

DS1 is 15. He went out with his friends yesterday evening and when he cane home at 8:30 ds3 was still awake and going strong. DS1 bundled him up in his favourite blanket and took him into the garden to watch the moon rising over the mountain so I could have a break for 5 minutes.

Ds3 finally went to sleep at 10:30 and ds1 and I stayed up chatting til 12:30. He told me how his friends were trying to persuade him to say he'd missed his train home so he could stay out for another hour but he wouldn't do it as he knew I'd be at home on my own.

He told me about his friend who is a "troublemaker" at school but ds1 thinks he'd reacting to his situation at home, mum not around, friend living with his nan who doesn't seem to want him there, and that his friend is basically a nice lad and he's worried that his situation is going to hold his friend back.

He told me I'm a great mum He said I'm strict but fair and he likes knowing that I'm always here for him.

He told me about his friends who are both coming out as bisexual. He told me about who he fancies. He told me he's never going to get anyone pregnant because he can see that it's a lot of work for me as a grown up with a home and enough money and he wouldn't want to put a girl or himself and a baby into thst situation at such a young age.

I split up with his dad when he was 2 due to his dads addiction problems. I have worked hard not to slate his dad to him but as he's got older he's wanted to know more about why we split up. He told me that he can see now that he has a great life and that it would've been completely different if we'd stayed together.

Apologies for this massive post but I'm so proud of what a lovely, funny, caring, intelligent young man that he is growing up to be. If sleep wasn't so vital I would've stayed ip all night talking to him. ( and I wanted a written record of how fab he can be to refer back to for the times when I want to throttle him )

OP, you have made me cry!
But for posting such a lovely AIBU.

What an amazingly wise and considerate DS you have. Thank you for sharing your joy with us - so many negative posts in here - lovely to have one to make me well up in a happy way.

And the boasting? Meh. I'd be yodelling it from the mountain tops.

Well done BuckBuck - what an ace mom yuo are.

Aaaaaww Buck your DS does sound lovely and it looks like he has a very mature head on his shoulders- he can see his friends' problems and relate to them but be objective.

You need to print this thread out and keep it for the (inevitable) days when he'll drive you batty.[buwink]

Please tell me your DS was a pain when he was 12 yo, but grew out of it !!

So sorry you had to give in to sleep! Times like this are so precious you don't want them to stop. How lovely for you.

What a lovely post! Thank you for posting a positive thread about your teenager - it's nice to know that they can appreciate everything you do for them [busmile]

Thank you for all the lovely things you are saying.

My middle 2dc stayed at their nan's last night so we've had a lovely morning together as well.

And yes, he was a pita at 12 so there is still hope

I'm really pleased that he talks to me the way that he does. I have a fantastic relationship with my mum now but at 15 I would not have told her anything that was happening in my life.

What a brilliant job you've done, he sounds lovely. I bet you are so proud.
Looks like you have a friend for life, as well as a son. X

What a lovely son. You must be so proud of him. [busmile]

You've done a brilliant job there, well done! [busmile]

You have just increased kleenex's sales!! What a lovely DS! Enjoy him!

Such a lovely post. He sounds like a lovely lad and you must be so proud. He sound like he's very proud of you too and I really hope my boy turns out like this. [busmile]

Your ds1 sounds brilliant and you have done an amazing job with him.

What a lovely young man. I hope my DC and I will have this sort of relationship.

mine are a lot younger but both of them, separately, thanked me for the wee holiday we just had. I was very proud of them

DS1 (17) is like this, too. He tells me most of the stuff that is going on in his and his friends' lives. He says that his friends are a bit [buhmm] that he tells me so much. I like it. I do have to be careful not to criticise, though, or he won't tell me so much. He has realised that I can best protect him if he tells me everything.

I also try not to criticise what he tells me about his friends and what they do.

He has also told me that he thinks that he has had a great homelife, maybe not as materially rich as some, but rich in feeling secure, listened to, etc.

It is a good feeling, isn't it, when your DC tell you things like that [busmile].

I just hope the same will eventually happen with DD . She's a much less open character than DS1, much more prickly.

Well done, OP. It's good to realise you've done something right and also that you've gone through some stressy times and are now coming out the other side.